Imagine that you are walking through a clearing on a beautiful summer day with your child; the forest is filled with the fresh and tart smell of life in all its manifestations. There were no signs of trouble. But then one irresistible desire arose, which is usually satisfied without spectators. Out of extreme need, you leave the child in the clearing with the sentence: “Sit here, don’t go anywhere, I’ll be back in a minute (2-3). And suddenly a stable hummock treacherously turns into swamp slurry, into which you fall with one shoe. Nature quickly begins to do its job, and you are quickly sucked in. What to do? Your motivation is reinforced concrete - you can’t help but leave, there’s a child there. And nearby are wolves, snakes, gopniks, dreaming of stealing a young, fresh organism for organs. And there is no way to leave. There is no use in throwing the shoe, you are sucked in up to your knees. But you can’t go into the clearing without pulling your leg out. Call for help? Focus on this process? Contemplation of one’s own body going under water is a sight for a person with the healthiest psyche that completely paralyzes the will and causes panic of such strength that it can lead to complete cardiac arrest. The only rational way is to pull out your leg, rushing with all your might into the clearing. Absolutely the same should be done with depressive states; you cannot focus only on solving the problem itself. I think every psychologist has clients who go around for years, delving into their childhood, Oedipus complexes, at what age their mother stopped breastfeeding them, at what age their boy first pulled his pigtail, dad didn’t buy a dog, they try it on themselves narcissism, inferiority complex, Monroe complex, various typing according to socionics, vector psychology, “for starters” they dissect themselves according to psychosomatics. At the same time, nothing changes for the better in their lives. And perhaps things are still getting worse. Well, how can you be happy if your mother dared to go on maternity leave not in the 7th month, but in the 9th. Because of this, I developed a fear of rejection. She is solely to blame for the fact that I have no husband, wife, money and friends. True, my mother has been gone for a long time. And I abused my husband and wife for at least 5 years. And at work, I’m not doing work, but looking for a way out of my terrible complexes. But it is not important. When a person feels bad, as a rule, he withdraws into himself, his interests become one-sided. In fact, their only interest becomes only himself, and how bad he feels. If he has not yet completely lost his social intuition, he understands that it is not worth voicing this, it is simply not interesting to anyone, and it is not useful. And he simply has nothing more to say. Then he receives yet another proof of his uselessness, worthlessness, and inability to communicate, secretly cursing people for their heartlessness. “How come they themselves don’t notice that I feel so bad? Unfeeling, selfish creatures." Something like this text sounds inside him, perhaps very deeply, but for some reason, it is always clearly read by people, causing a reaction opposite to the desired one. Such a person is instinctively avoided; his secret aggression is felt too well. But let's return to our leg. How to do it using duality? Do you remember the thought of calling for help? In principle, this idea is correct. Still, it is practically impossible to cope with the swamp on your own. Feel free to call. There will still be an appreciative audience. Maybe one or several people who love you very much. If there are none, as a last resort, there is the Internet and forums. Yes, and on our website you can get a free consultation. Voicing or describing your condition always improves it and helps structure your thoughts. In addition, communication is guaranteed to have a therapeutic effect. But by no means limit yourself to this. By focusing on solving your own psychological problem directly, you not only become one-sided, but also lose such a powerful.