Dependence on a loved one sometimes takes forms similar to the worship of an idol, a superman, or some deity. The addict includes in his imagination the mechanism of so-called crystallization, well described in Stendhal’s novel “On Love”. The artificial intensification of feelings in a lover is described there as the gradual overgrowth of crystals on a twig placed in salt mines. As a result, when they take it back, the original appearance changes beyond recognition. Before us is a shiny expensive brooch, shimmering with “diamonds,” or another work of art, and not an ordinary piece of wood. This happens with an addict, who gradually endows the object of passion with all unimaginable, and most often, unusual qualities for him. And someone literally says that the beloved/beloved is a goddess or god for him. Or, for example, the embodiment of divine energy, a receptacle of universal knowledge, secret magic, etc. Anything, just to explain to himself why he fell so hard for this, in general, quite ordinary person. Here it would be appropriate to consider the general mechanism for triggering the process dependencies. Figuratively speaking, inside each of us there is a “red button” that remains in sleep mode until the anxiety goes off or some provoking event occurs. Even a meeting with an unusual, bright person can serve as a trigger and a reason for pressing this button. That is, a dependent person thereby screams about the need for affection, attention and protection. The pattern of such a reaction is laid down in childhood. And if the adult figures that were significant for a person were adequate to his need for care and love, then dependent behavior, as a pattern, will not “pop up” in adulthood. If parents or other important people somehow pushed the child around and did not respond to his needs, ignored his needs, did not love him simply for the fact that he is, he is with them - then this scenario will begin to work out precisely now, when, as a replacement for parents, a loved one will act as a significant figure. Well, a tendency to worship an inaccessible object will be added colors to the image of an important figure, will thicken the twilight of feelings around her, adding a sweet demonic note that so excites an emotional masochist. It will be quite difficult, and most often impossible, to understand these processes on your own. Therefore, it is worth talking with a specialist so as not to erect an altar of worship to a person who often suspects nothing and lives his ordinary life. The cult of love addiction© Bogdanova Anzhelika, 2023 Problems in relationships, working with authors, promotion, texts to order 9103664555 Channel Zen Book " Blogotherapy I recommend a specialist: Martynyuk Galina Valerievna Psychologist - Moscow