From the author: How often do we forget about our rights and violate others. Whatever happens in the world and with you, YOU ARE. Even if you have not reached the heights of success, you are, you exist, and this is good news. You can always start again. - Surely there have been such situations in your life: your actions are assessed, and it is, to put it mildly, not positive, and those who evaluate it seem to be right (as it seems to you), but inside you everything turns upside down, and you feel anger or resentment ... I just want to blurt out: “Nobody asked your opinion!” And they really didn’t ask for an opinion, but why is it so bad then? Or did you have thoughts like these: “I should do this for someone else, and only then take care of my desires,” or “Everyone should like me and my actions ”, or “They didn’t do anything good to me, so I shouldn’t try for them!”? I'm sure you visited. Even if they are not exactly the same, then maybe they are similar. The most unpleasant thing in this situation is that we ignore our feelings that tell us: “Something is wrong here!” And we continue to live according to the usual settings. But they are the ones who make our lives disharmonious. And there comes a moment when, in response to the question “What would you like (or wanted)?” At best, when we think about it, we declare material “I want.” A person deprived of rights is just as pitiful and unhappy as a person who does not recognize the rights of others and acts according to the principle “The law exists to be broken.” Human rights are only one pole of humanity, the other is the responsibility inevitably associated with freedom. And so, I live with the attitudes “Do good to everyone, but don’t think about yourself” or “Everyone for himself, in this world all means are good to achieve my goal” and at the same time I feel that this seems to be not entirely fair.. But what is the right way then? Not to do good to anyone or, conversely, not to refuse everyone who suffers? Every person has his legal, official rights: the right to property, to the inviolability of his home, the right to vote and other important rights. However, each of us also has unofficial, PERSONAL RIGHTS. So that self-criticism does not lead you to the idea that nothing has brought you pleasure for a long time, that you are tired of pleasing everyone, or, even more so, that life is generally lived in vain and senselessly, you need to know the law on psychological human rights. In some scientific sources it is called “rules of assertive behavior.” These are generally accepted norms of human behavior designed to preserve the mental health of the individual and her environment. Personally, I HAVE THE RIGHT: - sometimes put myself and my needs first; - ask for help and emotional support; - show emotions: anger, disgust, sadness, resentment (I have the right to be offended by what hurts me, despite the advice “Be patient!”, “Understand and forgive!”) and, of course, joy (if I feel funny, I have the right to laugh loudly and squeal with happiness!); - protest against criticism or ignorant treatment, and I can walk away from a crazy person yelling at me without trying to convince him that he is wrong; - on your own opinion and belief, feelings, assessments, without explaining them or justifying them; - make mistakes (yes, I have the right not to know everything, sometimes make illogical decisions, not be perfect!); - provide people with the opportunity to solve their own problems themselves and not impose your wise advice on them; - say “No, thank you!”, “Sorry, no!” when I can’t or don’t want something; - on your own feelings, regardless of whether others understand them; - change your decisions and choose a different course of action. What rights do you have? Take a piece of paper and write 25 “I have the right to...”. Read your rights to yourself and your loved ones. Give the same opportunity to your family members. And pay attention to what rights your spouse and your children claim. Maybe this is a weak area in your relationship? Discuss it, and your family will become stronger and much better..