I recently came across a video where a girl says that the best affirmation that will be useful in any situation is “Don’t care” (there is a word there, of course, obscene), it will somehow resolve itself.” Have you seen it? And most people believe that it can help. I’ll tell you why, from a psychological point of view, this affirmation has a negative impact on you. Firstly, you devalue your own emotions, feelings and reactions to what is happening. Why is it harmful to “forget” your emotions? Because when you hide your feelings and emotions, don’t express them, don’t let yourself feel them, bury them inside yourself, your body, you accumulate them in yourself. A sort of repository of negative emotions: anger, resentment, shame. This may later come back to haunt you with psychosomatic illnesses. Did you know? Do you know that depression, for example, arises due to the fact that a person cannot get angry, react to a situation negatively, because “it’s impossible” (an unfavorable reaction from the outside may follow), because he doesn’t know how, because he forbade himself when -that. And he hides all his feelings “locked up”. As long as others don't see it. And stuck resentment can come back to haunt you not only with obesity/anorexia, blurred vision, sore throat and laryngitis, but also with disruptions in the cardiovascular system, and even oncology. “Forgetting” and letting go of the situation is, of course, good. But you should not underestimate or ignore your emotions and feelings. If they are there, just pay attention to them. The body doesn’t lie at all, it’s trying to tell you something. Think: “What is this feeling trying to tell me? What is this about for me?” The second point why it is harmful to follow this affirmation is that it will not resolve itself until you begin to act. Many people think that a wizard will come and everything will change in their life, they will be happy, satisfied, and earn a lot. They wait, but nothing happens. Because this is the position of the victim: “Save! Help!” The position of the Author of his life is different. The author is ready to take responsibility for his own life, for his choices and actions. But the victim is looking for someone to throw it at. What do you think about this? Harmful or beneficial affirmation? Write in the comments. And subscribe, in the articles you will find many discoveries for yourself in the field of relationships. https://vk.com/club209242347 my vk group (useful materials, the opportunity to see the price list and sign up) https://t.me/ arinastreninapsy my telegram with useful techniques and motivational messages that are not available in other social networks. networksI will be glad to see you on my pages! Sign up for a consultation Sincerely, crisis and family psychologist Arina Strenina You can also read my other articles: About unlived emotions How to build harmonious relationships? What to do if relationships cause pain?