An abusive relationship is a harmful cycle of behavior where one partner uses physical, emotional or psychological abuse to control and manipulate the other. Signs of such a relationship include guilt manipulation, emotional swings, social isolation and more. Staying in an abusive relationship can seriously harm your physical and emotional health, so it's important to learn how to leave it. In this article, we'll look at how to do this. Stop justifying the abuser's behavior This is the first and most important step. Recognize that the bully's behavior is unacceptable and cannot be justified. There is no need to look for excuses or blame yourself for what is happening. Relationships where there is violence or manipulation can never be normal. Personal boundaries Determine which boundaries are comfortable for you and which violations are unacceptable. Consider your physical, emotional and psychological boundaries. Always defend these boundaries and do not allow them to be violated. Preparing to leave If the decision to break up has been made, it is important to prepare for this step. Develop a plan. Find a safe place to go, prepare some sustenance (finances), establish contact with support organizations or friends who can help you in a crisis situation. SecuritySafety is the most important aspect. If you feel your life is in danger, seek help from law enforcement or victim services. Your physical and psychological safety should be a priority. Don't look for positive moments in the past. Separate yourself from idealizing your relationship with an abusive partner. Don't try to find excuses for his behavior. This will help you decide to end the relationship. Restoring physical and mental health Seek help from professionals and organizations that can provide support in restoring your physical and emotional well-being. Consult with a psychologist, participate in support groups, and seek medical help. Relationships after a breakupAfter ending an abusive relationship, it is important to pay attention to your physical and emotional recovery. Start building supportive, healthy relationships with the people around you. Don't rush into a new romantic relationship, give yourself time to heal your wounds. Lifestyle and self-esteem Pay attention to your physical and mental health. Develop your interests, hobbies, and participate in activities that bring you pleasure. This will help you feel stronger and independent. The main thing is to stay safe and seek help when needed. No one should stay in a relationship that is harmful to their physical and emotional well-being. Sincerely, Your psychotherapist, coach, interpersonal relationship specialist, Natalia Akhmedova