Hello friends! Do you or your friends often apply the rule “You must live no worse than others!” in your life? Maybe your parents lived with such an attitude, or maybe your grandparents, all this is put aside into understanding the structure of the world - do you have a tendency towards such thoughts? If you catch yourself thinking that someone can afford a vacation in a beautiful place, expensive (by your standards) clothes, a good car and you begin to want everything the same thing - because someone else has it and you should definitely have it.... If you have a desire to get married (get married) and have children, because your peers are already in full swing with families and children, and you not yet... If you are deciding where and who to work, how much to earn and what field to “determine” yourself into based on what is popular now, where other people may be making good money... All these “ifs”, if they presence in your life most likely indicate that you live not by your desires, needs and skills, but by “being on the level”, meeting the imaginary requirements of society, BEING NO WORSE THAN OTHERS! However, are you happy with all this? ? Of course, it’s very scary, building your life according to a certain pattern, investing your strength and time, your energy and resources into it, to start asking yourself questions: “Do I even want all this? Do I really need it, it gives me pleasure, joy in itself?” in itself, and not from a perspective - do I have the same thing as they have?” But if you achieve success, salaries, positions, give birth to children and raise them, live in a marriage with a partner, but at the same time you do not feel happiness, joy , satisfaction from the fact that you have all this - perhaps you should finally pluck up the courage and ask yourself - why did I strive so hard for all this, but when I received it I cannot be happy? What motivated me when I chose this job and field of activity for myself? And now I'm in it because I like it and I love doing it? Or because I feel sorry for the effort and time spent, because I’m afraid to start looking for my area again and start from scratch? I’m in this family, in this apartment, with this woman (or this man) - because I want to be here, I love this person and it is important for me to be part of this family? Or because I’m already over 30 or 40 and I don’t want to start all over again, and this man (woman) with whom I live, although he infuriates me, annoys me, humiliates and insults me from time to time.... but I have to ) to bear this cross for the sake of the children, I can’t take everything and throw it away - but how will I continue? And in general, everyone endures, and I will endure, there must be a family. What I mean by all this is - It is very dangerous to “look around” all the time and adapt to living no worse than others - this deprives you of the breadth of choice and the opportunity to live according to the dictates your desires, “your heart”. Think about it and ask yourself such important questions! Your psychologist, Ordina Lyubov