In general, I have Anna Gomez's new book in reading, so expect posts about CPSD, attachment trauma and dissociative disorder)) the best way to care about the material is to tell it to others. Attachment theory, affective neuroscience, interpersonal neurobiology and polyvagal theory, the principles of which form the basis of emdr therapy for the above-mentioned requests. Overall, it is amazing how the human brain is wired and how repeated experiences with early caregivers play a huge role in its formation and functioning. Understanding the complex relationship between early attachment experiences, the development of biological systems, and brain circuits is critical when working with complex cases of trauma. I encounter in my practice the phenomenon of anti-vitality. Now I’m thinking about this from a different point of view; it requires more observations and reflection. Thus, a person greedy for life can experience states similar to freezing, unwillingness to live and “I wish it would all end soon,” without reference to depressive states, but as a response to some frustrating event. It's not really about the pattern of thinking about death as a way out of a difficult situation, which can provide some relief to a person going through a difficult time. And a whole complex of sensations, complete detachment from life literally at the bodily level. Here you can test the hypothesis about preverbal trauma, as an experience fixed at the level of a pattern of complete detachment from an attachment figure after separation. This idea that you can leave a child to scream so that he gets used to being alone in a crib/room is precisely what contributes to the formation of this detachment , especially when needs are systematically ignored. So, if the parents, in particular the one who cares for the child the most, usually the mother, in general, responds to his needs - feeds him on time, changes diapers, holds him, communicates, but “accustoms” him to lie down alone, withstanding the cry of a child, this causes less damage than, in general, they are not particularly suitable for a child. In this regard, the experience of children from an orphanage, and the hospitalism syndrome, as an extreme degree of this phenomenon and anti-vitality, is noteworthy. Thus, “Balbi and Robertson divided the reaction of young children to loss or separation from a maternal figure into three stages. The initial stage is called "protest", when the child showed signs of distress: crying, anger and fear. During the second phase - “despair”, the child showed increasing hopelessness, alienation and detachment. During the final phase, called "detachment", the child showed a lack of attachment behavior when reunited with the mother. At the same time, no signs of emotion were visible on the baby’s face.” Parents are well aware of this call of the baby, who is trying to invite contact. At first he just moves, twitches his arms and legs, then he groans, then he starts screaming, then he starts crying, and this crying is special - it is full of anger and fear, then it gradually calms down, occasionally making sounds, and then he switches off and falls asleep. Sometimes this is perceived as the success of “habituation”. But we now know what it is - this is the experience of dissociation and the complete feeling of losing a parent, since the understanding of time is alien to babies, and for him, the parent who has moved away for an hour disappears forever. And the need for affection is the most significant need for mammals; we cannot survive without an adult. Quotes from: Ana M. Gomez. EMDR therapy and auxiliary approaches in the treatment of children. To PTSD, attachment trauma and dissociative disorder. – 2022, from. 17