The most interesting thing is that the feeling of complete sensation of a partner in a couple, dissolution in the desires of a loved one is a beautiful and wonderful feeling. So why then does the question arise: “What should I do if I dissolve in my partner?” As if there might be a problem here. And it really exists. People who have such a permanent emotional impulse, emotional movement, end up in a situation of severe frustration (in this context, depression, a feeling of dissatisfaction). And this happens because in the end the partner does not give feedback on such a strong movement - he doesn’t need that much. Or he turned out to be less emotional than his other half, ready to love without looking back. And since any relationship is built on interaction, on the exchange of emotions and actions, sooner or later a person will begin to feel dissatisfaction, first with the lack of feedback at the “proper” level, and then with the understanding that the need to emotionally dissolve in a partner is one’s own and individual. And he or she needs less, either in a different form or with the preservation of personal space, etc. So it turns out that a person who tends to seek complete emotional dissolution finds himself in the awareness of the individual need for an emotional connection. Is this the only way this emotional connection is built in order to be sustainable and contribute to both the development of relationships and a healthy sense of self in connection with a partner? The answer, although on the surface, is to understand the reasons and essence of your emotional state - not an easy task and requiring a lot of energy, techniques and objective feedback from a specialist. And the reasons mainly lie in the first sensory experience that a person received in childhood as an example of the relationship between parents and the relationship of parents to themselves. And also, entering into a relationship as an adult and getting a negative experience when emotional needs led to the choice of a partner to satisfy them, but did not allow one to develop a relationship and understand oneself in a relationship. Understanding oneself, one’s emotional needs and working through childhood traumas is not an idea a million dollars, but for billions of nerve cells and, most importantly, for years of life that can be spent simply sitting in a relationship that will bring dissatisfaction. Until they end on their own initiative or on the initiative of a partner - these are already details. So, investments in your own psycho-emotional state will pay off with interest. And this is not a question of money, but a measure of the feeling of happiness and harmony in life. However, the feeling of an emotional connection with a loved one, dissolution in the desires of a partner is a beautiful and wonderful feeling, high and unforgettable. Only it should be mutual, built on acceptance and understanding of each other, on trust and mutual respect. Love and harmony to everyone in relationships with loved ones. Yuri TrubitsynPractical psychologist, art therapist. Sign up for a consultation: WhatsApp or Telegram +7-921-940-16-05