From the author: Anything can happen in this life. And if it, this life, turns out in such a way that your man is married, then you need to know all the pitfalls, all the pros and cons of this situation, so that later you don’t end up with nothing. Many decent ladies will be indignant after reading this text. But situations are too traumatic and occur too often to turn a blind eye to them and pretend they don’t exist. Girls who have recognized themselves: take this article as a bitter pill from illusions... Call, write. I’ll help you in any way I can!) We won’t discuss the sad song about statistics, about ten girls and nine guys. Anything can happen in this life. And if it, this life, turns out in such a way that your man is married, then you need to know all the pitfalls, all the pros and cons of this situation, so that later you don’t end up with nothing. So, this situation has its pros and cons, indications and contraindications. When an affair with a married man is good for you You are a free, independent woman who DOES NOT WANT to commit herself to long-term relationships and obligations. You simply don't have time for them. And this format is convenient for you. You have been married for a long time and sadly, but you are not going to get a divorce. Why are you so tired of this husband, and why are you still together - we’ll leave it behind the scenes. You can find ten reasons and explain them to everyone, and above all, to yourself. Your husband is cheating on you, and in this way you are trying to “maintain balance.” You are simply not ready for a serious relationship. For different reasons. When this romance destroys you You are already “well over twenty” or even “over thirty.” You have never been married, or you unsuccessfully went there many years ago, in your youth. Regardless of your marital status, you finally met your prince and fell head over heels in love with him. He is perfect in every way: kind, generous, sexy, and attentive... but he has one flaw. He is a MARRIED MAN. You are kind, you feel sorry for Him, especially when he rants like a nightingale about how stupid-greedy-grumpy his wife is, how she doesn’t understand him, and how lucky it is that he met You, so subtle-tender-sexy , who is the only one in the entire Universe who is so capable of understanding, supporting, feeding him... And about how he needs you, and without you he won’t live a day! But you can’t be together yet, because he and his hated wife have a common business, or she has an influential dad, or she is terminally ill, or you have to wait until the child finishes school - choose the appropriate option yourself or enter your own. Your excessive naivety and inclination to idealize Him. Sometimes this is mixed with a false sense of gratitude for the fact that he paid attention to you. Especially when your self-esteem is just above the baseboard, and you treat yourself under the motto “who needs me?” You’ve been alone for many years. The relationship does not work out catastrophically. Loneliness of a woman is a terrible thing! From loneliness you are ready to howl and throw yourself at the wall. Especially on holidays and weekends. What to do? First of all, decide WHY YOU NEED this relationship. What do you expect from them? Is this an escape from loneliness or a pleasant cure for boredom in your family relationships? If you are ready to put up with the role of an “alternate airfield”, the mistress of a married man, then welcome! If not, then urgently go to a good psychologist to solve your problems. Because it can be treated, and over time, your “competitive advantages” in the bride market can greatly deteriorate. If you are deeply convinced that He is the only man on the entire planet for whom you have been waiting all your life, this is Love with a capital L , which you have never experienced - beware! You have fallen into the network of psychological dependence, through which he will manipulate you and build your “relationship” on conditions that are beneficial for him, but not for you. If you, as it were, have been “together” for several months, or even years, but things are still there, and you are still sung with inspiration a song on the theme: “Darling, be patient a little longer, I love only you, I need you, etc.”, get yourself a fork for!