From the author: “There are female souls who are always languishing with some kind of sad thirst for love and who, because of this, never love anyone.” I.A. Bunin Most single women want to make their lives similar to the lives of other people - like everyone else. Many people strive to have a relationship, love and be loved like someone else. The feeling that I don’t have what others have makes life miserable. You can often hear the following words: “If I had love, I would be happy.” Is love really happiness in life? The question sounds banal, but it contains a double meaning. Many people are accustomed to measuring their happiness by relationships. There are relationships - there is happiness. No relationship - no happiness. Is this really so, is it possible to say with confidence that human happiness is in relationships? Absolutely right! Can! Because we are always in a relationship! Even if we do not have a relationship with another person whom we can call beloved or beloved, we are in a relationship with ourselves, which many do not consider a relationship. Meanwhile, relationships with ourselves are the main relationships in the life of every person . What are these relationships? Just as we know how to build them with the most important person in our life, with ourselves, whether we love or not, so they build with everyone else. Why do many unhappy women complain that their friend has a husband: “He does this and that, and I do everything on my own”? “Why do I come across only weaklings and gigolos in my life”? “My friend lives like a queen, but it’s as if no one sees me.” You can continue indefinitely. You can only get an answer to these questions by answering several other questions: “Do you love yourself?”, “Do you know well what you want?”, “Do you know how to define your boundaries?” You can often hear one answer to these questions: “No.” I won’t say anything new, but if we don’t love ourselves, what kind of self-love can we talk about in other people? If we don't know how to love ourselves, we may simply not know what love is. How do we recognize her? From books, from films, from how she appears to us in other ways. I always ask if you are like your sister, friend, colleague, like those who are loved and in a relationship. Basically, the answer is the same: “No - she’s selfish, she only loves herself.” But if she loves herself, does that mean her relationship with herself has worked out? Men are hunters, they hunt for smiles and eyes glowing with happiness. They do not let women in who are confident in their beauty and feminine charms. Men are hunters - they hunt for women who know how to love. Their love for themselves gives them a charm that is impossible not to notice. Perhaps those women who say that they have so much unspent love that they are ready to love another person, give him warmth and care, be a loving wife and a faithful friend, will not agree with me. Dear, dear women, spend this love on yourself, give yourself everything that you are ready to give to another, love yourself, become happy before someone wants to make you happy. Real and inherently correct relationships will find you as soon as you you can create the right circumstances for this. Love will definitely come if you: Are ready to take full responsibility for your loneliness. When there is not a shadow of doubt in your mind that your person is already heading in your direction. When your relationship with yourself will improve, and you will be able to communicate effectively with another person. When you are satisfied with yourself, your life, stop comparing yourself and your life with others and start simply living. When you learn to accept any person you meet, because each of them will bringing you closer to the one you are waiting for. When your positive attitude towards life will become the key to attracting positive people. When you can say no if you are not sure that this is the person you need. You are ready for love and relationships, if you are absolutely comfortable=20432