Hello friends! Let’s continue the topic of relationships, or rather their absence in the lives of girls, women, as well as boys and men - because... what I will describe in this article can exist in the life of any person. It happens that, being in a period of life “without relationships,” girls organize their lives very harmoniously. In their lives there are meetings with friends, interesting work, all kinds of hobbies, travel and interesting vacations. The girl lives a very busy life for some time, but there are no relationships in it (in this life). There may be flirting, dating, a couple of dates, but nothing more. And, on the one hand, the girl I like everything, but on the other hand, I have thoughts that I could “add” a relationship with a permanent partner to my life. However, some contradiction arises here in the sense that “there is nowhere to place this partner.” The girl meets every day , events, people, communication, work, study, leisure - everything that she loves, that she is not ready to give up, that fills all her time. But for a partner and relationships to “come” into her life, it must be “the place where they will be located.” And the result is such a contradiction: you kind of want a relationship, but don’t have time for it... If such a contradiction is not realized, most likely, the relationship does not happen, and the girl continues to live her busy life, only occasionally asking the thought “probably something needs to be done about this, but what is not clear.” When the contradiction is realized, it is possible to figure out what is the priority at the moment: the established way of life or the desire to create a couple (family). When relationships (taking into account previous experience or attitudes from the family) are associated with a rejection of usual life, freedom, fun and one’s interests - it is difficult to decide on them. It’s difficult to convince yourself to give up something pleasant that you already have in life now, for the sake of something that includes another person and a certain “degree of uncertainty”: - what if he is against traveling, - what if he wants me to protect him - I constantly cooked borscht and sat at home with him, “what if he doesn’t like my friends, and I’ll have to choose him or them... And there are many more such “what if”! In this format of thoughts, it is important to understand that the girl chooses herself partner for herself, and can choose exactly the one who will be on the same wavelength with her, will not impoverish, but will enrich her life! That a relationship with a partner “should” not worsen life, but add to it what friends and travel cannot give , flirting. When you understand what a relationship is for, it becomes possible to “make room” for them in life! If you want to understand yourself, understand what and why is happening in your life now, I invite you to the course: https:/ /www.b17.ru/courses/lyubov_k_sebe_trening/?prt=164804 where I will accompany you in working with yourself! And if you found the article useful, I will be glad to see your “likes” and comments) Your psychologist, Ordina Lyubov