We continue the topic of domestic violence. Namely, today we will examine an unpleasant question from this sad topic: “Why don’t victims of violence leave these relationships?” First, let's immediately say that domestic violence can happen to anyone. It doesn’t matter what race, what religion, what level of income or education. Violence can happen in any home. Domestic violence only occurs in families where intimate, interdependent, long-term relationships have already been built. And so, for what reasons does the victim not leave the tyrant?1. She doesn't see the violence. How can you not see the violence? If he beats you and humiliates you, then that’s violence. But it's not that simple. Imagine that you are in a very dear relationship with a person whom you truly love. You can no longer imagine your life without him. And so, in a fit of anger, he hit you (or maybe strangled you). Will you immediately understand that this is violence? There is a high probability that you yourself will justify him: “Well, he was already on edge, it happens to everyone, he went too far, don’t destroy everything that has been built over the years because of such a mistake.” This is why most often victims of violence do not understand what is happening to them. They believe that this is normal and that it happens everywhere, or that “well, it happens.” The more people know what domestic violence is, the more they will be able to stop it!2. She is afraid of public opinion. Yes, it could be worse. Fear of religious condemnation or judgment from parents. In Russian society, some mothers who give their daughters in marriage say a phrase (which is passed down from generation to generation): since you chose him as your husband, then don’t come to me and don’t cry. Those. saying in advance: BE PATIENT. And in general, once he hits, he puts him in his place. If violence occurs in the family against the husband, then he is also afraid to face public censure, since a man is “not allowed” to show his weakness. I’m generally silent about children. 3. Fear for your life (or for the lives of your children/animals/loved ones). After all, a domestic monster no longer has any boundaries or boundaries... 4. Parental responsibility. “It’s better to have such a father/mother than without him/her at all.” Again, from the idea that a happy family is only a full-fledged traditional family. And that everything depends on the internal climate... well, they somehow forget about it.5. Money dependence. 6. Rescue complex. Let's face it, any tyrant can justify his act and his actions by citing childhood trauma, or the behavior of the victim, fatigue from work, or nervous exhaustion. And yes, the victim has the thought “No one will understand him or help him except me!” It is also necessary to note possible irrational attitudes coming from negative and traumatic experiences in the past: “I don’t deserve better,” “I deserve all this” etc. Thus, getting out of the cycle of domestic violence is not so easy. Never judge a victim for having trouble taking a step unless you were in “her slippers.” Perhaps this article is being read by someone who is currently in a situation of domestic violence. Remember that you have support, you have every right to leave, and on the Internet you can find addresses of centers for assistance and protection of victims of domestic violence in your city. Miru - Peace! :)