Do you want a relationship? But there is no one suitable around you? Is your thirtieth birthday close? Or is it already behind you? If you answered “yes” to these questions, then read Laurie Gottlieb’s book “I Need the Best! How not to ruin your life while waiting for the ideal man,” she very clearly conveys important and relevant information. The book helps people who are too picky to think. Most often these are women. But it seems to me that now something similar is increasingly manifesting itself in men, it’s just that the problem with age is less pressing for them due to the lack of pressure from that very notorious ticking clock. Before this book, I often explained the difficulties some people have in building close, high-quality, partnerships with counterdependence. By the way, I can tell you more about this in the next post, if you want? But this book talks about another phenomenon: the excessive demands and selectivity of modern people. I think this phenomenon can also be called Cinderella syndrome; many of us were brought up with similar ideas from movies and TV series. Just look at the modern craze for Korean dramas, and by the way, many of the fans of this genre are lonely, since real people will never be able to reach the level of their favorite characters in such stories. And there are consequences of this in real life. I once came across a video about a certain show experiment, where a large audience of girls sits in front of a guy (maybe 100 people), he begins to read out items from his list, and with each new demand he stands up and one or more girls come out. And by the end of the list there is no one left. (I couldn’t find the video itself; if anyone could share the link, I’d be grateful.) In general, now and again I come across videos with a similar message. People begin to notice such excessive selectivity in themselves or in their acquaintances. There is a certain truth of life in this. Bitter, but true. And the book “I Need the Best” gives an excellent analysis of this phenomenon, as it is experienced from the inside. She provides an analysis of those attitudes that prevent a person from building happy, trusting relationships. Yes, it presents a female perspective, and there are a certain number of aspects specific to American culture. But I’m not saying that the book is relevant for everyone. Of course, there are specifics of Russian realities that are worth further research and analysis. But this is a separate topic. And in my opinion, for residents of large Russian cities, such issues are becoming increasingly relevant, especially for Moscow. It is to these people that I want to convey these ideas. That is why I am writing this recommendation. Overall, I think the most important thing in the book is that the author not only clearly clarified the problem, but also told how it can be solved, while spending a lot of her resources on blazing this path, in consultation with specialists, experiencing different experiences and analyzing them, and this is expensive. As a result of reading the book, you will receive criteria that are really important to consider when looking for a partner, so to speak, the book helps to separate the wheat from the chaff. In general, the book is easy to read, it looks like an intimate conversation. She is sincere, piercing, real. If you have already read this book or you are simply interested in discussing something on this topic, I will be glad to discuss, write) You can make an appointment with me for a consultation on relationship problems or with other requests by phone +7 985 441 22 78 or via private messages