Suppose you decide to start a family with a person who already has children. The fact is that your chosen one is directly involved in the lives of his children. And this is normal! It is also normal that this fact causes you a range of unpleasant feelings: fear, jealousy, anxiety, uncertainty. It is likely that you may feel that some part of your partner’s life seems to be closed from you or cannot be shared with you completely. If it is difficult for you to accept that there is a child in your husband’s life, then it is important to understand what is behind this rejection: fear of rejection, competition for a place in the life of your future spouse, or something else. Think about the worst thing that can happen in your imagination. Will he return to his old family? He won't want a child with you? Will you be left alone in difficult times? Does he not have enough resources (both material and psychological) to support both you and the child? It is important to clearly formulate what exactly is so unpleasant in the current situation? Analyze your thoughts and feelings in relation to each participant in the situation: yourself, your spouse, your child, as well as his (the child’s) mother. Is there anything that somehow resonates with your story? For example, when you were little, did you have to compete for your parents' attention and were often chosen over someone else? Or, for example, have you often observed how something especially tasty and valuable was not given to you? What is the experience of being unchosen? The situation can become especially difficult if the child shows aggression and rejection towards you. Aggression is often covered by fear: the fear of being abandoned by the father or rejected for a new life, in which the child may not have a place. You may be perceived as an Evil Witch who steals your dad's love and care. Another aspect: how is your beloved man experiencing the situation? He finds himself in a double bind situation and certainly wants your support. I believe that it is important to be close to him, and not against him, while the situation is lived out.