From the author: S-theoryTraining company Partner When the right to “want” is violated, an exaggerated desire to patronize develops in an active position, realized either through caring for another person, or as managing the actions and desires of another. The leadership role of these people is often based on unfounded statements that “they know better.” They can safely talk about the events of a thousand years ago “as they really were.” They attach great importance to the mind and almost always associate themselves with it, to the detriment of awareness of sensations. They want to be the best in order to gain the right to desire for others. In the first case, a person denies himself the right to desire and hides his desires from others so that no one will guess that he even has them. In the second, he projects his own desires onto another person and helps him fulfill “his” desires. His credo: “I don’t want this myself, but I do it only exclusively for you and for your own good, because you yourself want it.” Accordingly, in the first case, it is most important for such a person to get to the bottom of the truth. And study and security are possible for him only in the case of a long distance with another person. They are very suspicious, suspicious, prone to exaggerating the danger to themselves and extremely distrustful. In the second case, distance is also maintained, but at the same time clear guidance is provided to the partner. The less opportunity such a person has to notice anything other than himself, the less likely he is to be exposed in his desires. His task is to make himself as necessary as possible for the chosen person, to become his brain and spirit. And as a result, dislike for people develops. The violated right to “wish” provokes a person to distance himself from other people and focus on his own problems.