Every action we take has an impact on our lives, every word we say, every thought. There is hardly anyone who disagrees with this. We respect ourselves for some actions, we praise ourselves for some, we are ashamed of others, and for some we cannot forgive ourselves. We can’t do that, no matter how many years pass. And no matter how hard we try to justify our actions, the feeling of our own guilt does not go away. Today we’ll talk about lingering feelings of guilt. Why lingering?! Because the feeling of guilt itself is a useful thing in limited doses. Thanks to him, we acquire the ability to determine the correctness of our actions. This means that we draw appropriate conclusions for ourselves, accumulating our life experience and developing a strong immunity to bad things. It’s another matter when, instead of admitting our guilt, repenting and learning a lesson for ourselves, we focus only on the fact that we are “guilty”. And then this pathological process drags on for many, many years. In addition, guilt in a person’s mind implies punishment, and literally at every step he begins to unconsciously “attract” troubles to himself, which develop into chronic and incurable diseases. And all because the feeling of guilt has lasted too long. The meaning of this feeling is not to blame yourself, but to, having realized your mistake and its reasons, not to commit it in the future, knowing that you were once to blame. There is no need to justify yourself or present yourself in a good light. You were to blame, but YOU WAS in the past tense. Guilt has two sides. The first is a feeling of guilt towards someone who, accidentally or not, has caused some harm. Moreover, the other person may no longer remember about it or may not even guess, but you remember, and therefore it is still necessary to apologize (get out of guilt). Unfortunately, it often happens that there is guilt, but there is no longer an opportunity to ask for forgiveness. In this case, you can apologize in absentia by addressing that person mentally or in a letter (which can then either be sent or burned). Tell him how much you regret what happened and ask him to forgive you, even if he is no longer alive. This procedure is really important, try to follow it. The second and, perhaps, the most problematic side is the feeling of guilt towards oneself. "How could I?" - the man asks himself. And it’s not in vain that he asks, because most often people who are highly moral and follow the path of spiritual development blame themselves. For them, for a number of reasons, it can be very difficult to forgive themselves. It's not easy, but it's possible. And this will only happen when a person understands that he is “then”, guilty in the past, and he is today, understanding the mistake he made - these are two different people. And blaming the second for the mistakes of the first, thanks to whom he became wiser and more experienced in many ways, becomes inappropriate. It is much more expedient to admit the mistakes of the first one, forgive him and thank him for this “lesson learned” (and this is already “aerobatics”). Even if you once made the wrong choice, and now you regret it and blame yourself for it, know that we do not always choose the path, sometimes the Path chooses us, you just need to accept it with peace in your soul. ________________________________________________________________ There is no need to justify yourself or expose yourself to yourself in a good light. You were to blame, but YOU WAS in the past tense.________________________________________________________________ Find out your weaknesses, make them strong, and do not allow people who want to manipulate you to impose on you the dubious feeling of being guilty. I wish you success in working on yourself, healthy self-criticism and, of course, happiness!