Good afternoon! My favorite area of ​​work is family therapy. What image came to your mind when reading this phrase? Most often people think it's about a couple. Husband wife. It’s just that young people, not married, think that this means we’re in the wrong place. This is for families)) in fact, a family psychologist works with problems of mutual understanding, crisis between people who are somehow related to each other. These could be partners (whether married or not), parents and children. Fathers-in-law, mothers-in-law and newlyweds. Even grandparents and grandchildren. All people are different and sometimes it is not easy to understand or agree with others. Today I want to raise the topic of childhood aggression, because over the past year there have been many requests on this topic. And among elementary schools. Let's judge the reasons and look for solutions together. Most often, at primary school age, children experience overwork. Let’s not forget about the 7-year crisis, the restructuring of the body (active growth) and brain (from gaming activity to thinking, analytical). New social roles and many responsibilities! There is pressure at school, pressure at home. The child lives on the edge. Sometimes it is aggravated by the lack of hobbies and sections in such children. Parents say that the child is not keeping up. What sections! It will completely slide down. And here you need to understand! That the section for a child is exactly what is needed for psychological, physiological, emotional relief. Very often, teachers of a completely different type go into additional education. And because of this, children develop a different kind of relationship with them! There are no ratings. There is an opportunity to be yourself, to express yourself! This means raising your self-esteem and feeling more confident. Important point. If a child can decide little about school on his own, then when choosing sections, let your child make the decision. Let him try. If not, then help him. Direct. Aggression can be internal and external. Parents often come precisely because of complaints from the school (external) and rarely notice when their child is already experiencing aggression directed inward (eating problems, no appetite, or vice versa, eating problems, anxiety, poor sleep, disinhibition, tearfulness, bullying). harming oneself, with a pen, with a ruler, pinching until bruises, pulling out hair - I understand that it may sound scary, but kids may not even notice this, being under terrible stress! The parent’s task is to notice and take measures aimed at stabilizing the condition!) Aggression is always a warning sign! for parents. The child cannot cope with the situation on his own. He needs help! But more often than not, parents who have been screwed over by teachers, the children’s most important hope and support, take up arms against them, in a united front with the teacher. Aggression happens as self-defense (also a very delicate topic, who started it, who provoked Who is really the victim and who is the aggressor. Often everything is mixed up), and it happens because of a model of behavior learned at home. Another reason for external aggression (when a child shows it to someone else. Most often in primary school to a classmate), not being able to cope with your emotions. There are no bad or good emotions. They appear automatically! There is no need to push them aside or ignore them. This may have the opposite effect. But at the same time, you need to tell the child, show by example how he could have behaved differently in this situation. Suggest a different model of behavior. Help him consolidate it over time, patiently and with love. Another option is the lack of proper communication. Sometimes it’s easier to scream, bite, hit, than to explain and prove. Again, this most often comes from the family. Therefore, the work goes on with both the child and the parents. We talk through it, find weaknesses in the system and replace it. The worst thing for a child is the loss of parental love and being ignored. Often children break something, scream (show aggression, as adults believe), and do not listen, not because they are so angry and nasty, but because they vitally need your attention. It’s better that mom and dad scold me than not notice me at all—that’s what they thought !