From the author: Reflections on the choice of a partner by strong women - from the point of view of the science of Ancient China. Remember the joke “You have strength, you don’t need intelligence”? We often make fun of the unreasonable actions of our acquaintances, who overcome obstacles with energy rather than with prudence. And Griboyedov added a pearl to his collection of catchphrases - and the expression “woe from mind” became a stigma for intellectuals. What can a woman wish for if she has both strength and intelligence?! How to cope with such a “trouble” - in the process of interacting with the world of men? As soon as producer Yulia Pryakhina and I decided to hold a seminar for strong women to help them harmonize their energies, Niagara of letters fell upon us. Successful, powerful women are distinguished by their clarity of understanding of problems in the area under discussion; it is a pleasure to read their comments on my articles on the topic of future online classes. Many have attended trainings and are brilliantly versed in issues of energy exchange between men and women, this is obvious from deep and conscious reasoning. And yet the devil hid himself in the details and never pokes his little head out of them. Therefore, you can endlessly discuss the same topic, increase the level of awareness, get closer to perfection and see endless prospects for knowledge. The path to harmonize relationships between loving people is similar to the path of Tao: it can be cognized endlessly and never known, but at each stage of cognition there is a feeling of complete and final clarity of understanding. And this is normal! I suggest all women who know exactly what kind of man they need to talk again about the Tao of Love and once again clarify the image of the ideal man with whom they want to be close. It doesn’t matter how deeply married you are, because, according to Taoists, if your consciousness changes, the people around you change. This means that the existing chosen one can change - thanks to your new understanding and “exorcism” along with the wrong details. In this context, the expression “form the image of an ideal man” takes on a new meaning: we form an image in our minds and change the existing reality. And this is not some primitive manipulation of a man, but a correct and environmentally friendly energy-informational interaction with space! So, let me remind you that earlier we said that the man of your dreams should be “appropriate” and “suitable”, that is, answer ( “reciprocate”) on vibration and cause vibrations in our field. In other words, a resonance should always be felt in a couple, based on three-level intimacy: in body, energy and spirit. With such a coincidence, the man “suits”, that is, gets as close as possible to the woman, and this naturally triggers energy exchange processes in the couple. It would seem that everything is clear. And, nevertheless, some incorrect requests for space arise, which in the future can ruin the relationship. Therefore, I would like to talk about three typical inaccuracies that help that very infernal creature that we want to bring to light from the notorious details. The first inaccuracy: “I’m only interested in men who are stronger than me.” Perhaps this is a terminological confusion. But if we are discussing the problem from the point of view of ancient Chinese science, let's clarify the wording. Women feel comfortable with those men, next to whom their femininity “exacerbates”. That is, against the background of male yang energy, female yin energy becomes brighter. Since the concepts of yin and yang are relative and subjective, it is quite possible that with the same man one woman will sparkle with femininity, while the other will fade. And the same woman can seem “bright” to some men and “dull” to others. Why does this happen? Let me give you a gastronomic example. Imagine that every person, both man and woman, is a box of Assorted chocolates, which contains white and dark chocolate candies. Suppose there are only 30 candies in a box, of which 10 are light and 20dark ones. This is a "female" box. Now suppose that in another box there are 10 dark and 20 light candies. This is a "man box". The total number of candies in each box is the same. These two boxes will be comfortable together. But imagine that there are other boxes containing 60 and 90 candies. And if a large gift set contains 30 white candies and 60 dark ones, this box will be inconvenient on the same shelf with a small box containing only 30 candies of two types of chocolate. The same thing happens with men and women. If the “female proportion” is 10:20 and the “male proportion” is 30:60, the boxes placed on top of each other will not match in size. And if their proportions match - 10:20, then in total they will have 30 light and 30 dark candies. And here it is - happiness! This is a very primitive and very conventional image. But with its help, you can easily explain why a stronger man who attracts a woman may not reciprocate or break off the relationship, feeling discomfort after a while. Let's return to the formulation about strong men. We feel good with those men whose total energy volume, that is, the “total” volume of yin and yang, is close to our total volume, but the share of their yang energy is much greater than our yang energy. This does not at all mean that a man is stronger, because the strength of a person is determined by the totality of two polar energies, and not by the volume of one of the polarities. The final formulation may be: “I am interested in those men who are carriers of active male energy, commensurate with my calm feminine energy.” A little confusing, but accurate! Second inaccuracy: “You need to be able to adapt to a strong man and be strong in society, but weak next to him.” This is one of the most common misconceptions. There is a stereotype that a woman must be a transformer: at work she is domineering and tough, but at home, next to her husband, by force of will she turns into a white and fluffy cat. The Taoist truth is that a harmonious woman does not need transformations. There is absolutely no need to adapt, that is, to consciously demonstrate special qualities. The main law of the followers of science of Ancient China is following the law of naturalness Zi Ran. Naturalness does not imply roles or any acting in your personal life. No need to adjust! Next to the right man, precisely those feminine qualities that harmonize the union begin to manifest themselves. And since every person has Yin and Yang energies, a woman can be active at work and calm at home, without adapting to anyone, without violating her nature, without locking up the excess of her Yang energy and without using “male strategies” where they are inappropriate. Inaccuracy three: “The relationship between a man and a woman is like the interaction between a flower and a gardener.” In different interpretations, this request addressed to space is formulated differently. But in this one, the common female misconception sounds most clearly. Yes, women want care and affection, but we should not forget about the significant difference between a father and a chosen one. Caring is the function of the father. A gardener is one who plants a small sprout in the soil and then monitors its development. “Incest” is an unhealthy form of relationship between a man and a woman, and unions that grew on the dubious basis of a woman’s lack of paternal love are not uncommon. Therefore, we should not forget that a woman who unites with a man is no longer a sprout, she is not a child who needs care. And male courtship is significantly different from parental care. There are many such inaccuracies that arise, even at a high level of awareness. And the “collection of misconceptions” continues to be a stuck brake in our super-powerful machine of female success. Let’s correct these inaccuracies. If I feel that I liked a man who is stronger than me, it’s time to take care of my own energy status and move to a new energy information level and increase the overall volume vital energy, including.