Child cruelty, unfortunately, is coming to the forefront today. What happened? Why did our happy Soviet childhood not know such a thing as child cruelty at all and in principle? What happened to our society, to our children, and perhaps, and most likely to us? What is the phenomenon of child cruelty? The fact is that children by nature are quite categorical creatures; they do not yet see the undertones in life and do not yet know that relationships can be very different. Therefore, the child builds his relationship with the world according to the “black and white” principle, that is, either everything is good and wonderful for him, or everything is bad for him, and he is upset by what is happening to him. Watch your children yourself, and you will see that, right up to adult adolescence, the child sees the world in black and white. As a matter of fact, this is one of the factors of child cruelty, which manifests itself in very different ways.... When a child begins to build a relationship with someone, you can hear him excitedly talking about how wonderful his new friend is, but they just shouldn’t share a toy, and the best friend in the world turns into a categorically bad person, with whom it is simply impossible to be friends. But there is another phenomenon that is common to all children - the principle of flocking. Children want to be like everyone else, like a pack, like the group in which they are located, and in order to be like a group, they need to accept the rules of this group. For children, this principle is one of the most important, because if I’m not in the pack, if I’m not like everyone else, that means I’m an outcast, that means I’m not accepted. And the behavioral tone of the group, good or bad, is always set by the leader. Previously, the system of education in society placed the teacher in the place of the leader (remember, all the boys dreamed of becoming astronauts, and the girls dreamed of becoming teachers), his authority was high, and his opinion was undeniable. Therefore, it was completely natural for the group to go in the direction indicated by the leader. A completely reasonable question is, what prevents teachers today from instilling creative values ​​in children? Unfortunately, this is a system of relationships in our society, remember how your parents would react to a teacher’s complaint, and how do you react now? How would they react if you came home and complained that you were unfairly given a bad mark or that they were nagging you over trifles, but how do you behave today when faced with a similar situation? That is why now it is becoming increasingly difficult for a teacher to cope with manifestations of children’s cruelty in the classroom, because today his opinion is not the indisputable opinion of the leader. The impetus for the emergence of aggressive behavior is provided by both cruel computer games and films, and, no matter how paradoxical it may be, the majority children's cartoons, where cruelty between characters is a normal phenomenon, presented in a wrapper of dubious humor. It’s enough to watch how Jerry skins Tom to the cheerful children’s laughter and it will become clear how cruelty comes into the hearts of our children. Today, the problem of the wave of child cruelty needs to be stopped at the state level, but you and I, dear parents, can also contribute make your contribution as much as you can now. Children learn to interact with the world from our example, from the way we do it (only in their own “black and white” perception). And if today we expressed ourselves unflatteringly about someone in a telephone conversation, then tomorrow our children will enthusiastically play the game “who will call whom what.” If tomorrow, when we come home from work, we say that our boss is not distinguished by intelligence and intelligence, then after tomorrow our children will talk like that about those who are for them the prototype of the boss - i.e. about teachers, and about us, their parents. What to do if......my child is an aggressor There is no smoke without fire. Think and try to answer yourself as honestly as possible: are quarrels in your family a natural way to resolve conflicts that arise? How often do you communicate with your child?.