It’s quite easy to live when the scheme works - effort = result. You can then maintain self-confidence and look more or less calmly into the future. Even sometimes you are tempted to become clever and teach others how to do it right, and how it should be done in general. And when you firmly believe, as I once did, in this scheme, you become a fairly energetic, active, constantly developing person who knows how to achieve results. But there are rocks against which one’s forehead and one’s soul are smashed, in an attempt to overcome them head-on. Such when the result depends not only on you, but also on the will of another person or even a large group of people. This includes, for example, suffering from unrequited love, or the inability to achieve the career success that you feel capable and worthy of, or even renting a house in a foreign country, because different laws apply there. Another group is when the result does not seem to depend on anyone, when the conditions of reality are such that the efforts made do not change the picture in a global sense. For example, when a person or his loved one is terminally ill, or a person notices some recurring scenarios that he cannot yet solve. Although, in general, when you find yourself in situations from the second group, until the last moment you will strive to find a way to do something, also hoping for a miracle. Go through lessons, work yourself up and down, change God’s attitude towards you... And if something happens that can be interpreted as a good result, then phew, you breathe out for a while, and if not... Then you can fall into a hole despair and resentment for everything and everyone. Anger and self-pity will go off scale, constantly suppressed by fear that things could be even worse. Self-accusation, self-criticism is interspersed with angry screams to the heavens, and then with sincere, almost childish requests, “Please, God...” In other words, we can say that you are saying, “This doesn’t suit me, I don’t accept it, I want something else.” through thick and thin". And so I came to the conclusion that in order to make life easier for those who feel like they belong to the first group of “impossibilities,” it is important: - learn to analyze reality objectively, but with a position of self-support; - accept your limitations and the right of others to free will; - realize what needs you want to satisfy and what other ways and means there are for this; - and, very important, learn to say goodbye to what you lose or what you have to give up. For the second, in addition to the list written above, it is important to learn to pull yourself out of the endless ocean of analyzing the past in order to change the future. Because while you are busy with this interesting work, you don’t notice how the present becomes an annoying hindrance. I want to quickly escape from it into my little world of causes and effects. And life, I’ll say something banal, it’s here and now. And making it better and more comfortable is important in the present. And you need to take risks and face the awareness of your limitations and something that you cannot change - temporarily accept, but still take actions to make you feel better about it, look for support and choose to live. For example, Viktor Frankl survived in a concentration camp by supporting others and himself, believing in a bright future and writing his book in his head. This helped him pass the tests and not fall into the pit of despair and maintain faith in himself and in life.