Being late is unhealthy On the first of June I attended the play “How I Ate the Dog” by Evgeniy Grishkovets. This is the production with which our acquaintance with the work of this author began several years ago. The experiences and thoughts of his character were so clear and close to me that I had the feeling that much of what was described and played happened to me. Since then, Evgeny Grishkovets, without knowing it, has been present in my life among other people who are significant to me, from whom I learn and receive mental and emotional support in difficult situations for me. This time I was pleased with how he reacted twice to people making their way to the middle of the row, the first time after forty minutes of the performance, the second - an hour later. Firstly, he did not ignore this signal, interrupted his monologue and outlined the situation: after the start of the performance, with a great delay, a person calmly enters the hall, and does not even sit at the edge, but makes his way to the middle of one of the first rows. Secondly, he expressed his personal attitude to this incident, speaking of disrespect for the actor on stage, for the audience, and, ultimately, for theatrical and cultural traditions. And I rejoiced, joining the applause of the rest of the audience, when, in response to my uncle’s childishly funny excuses that he came from another city, Grishkovets retorted: “Imagine, me too.” And paying for a ticket is not permission for this kind of behavior. Why was it so important for me to receive such feedback from a figure significant to me? The fact is that I constantly have to work with the topic of tardiness as a facilitator in training and therapeutic groups. I know for sure that if a person has the intention of coming to a meeting on time, he will do it, despite the obstacles that arise along the way. When I was studying myself, the presenter told me that she sent home a seminar participant who was ten minutes late and had flown in from another country! After all, he took it upon himself to be on time. It’s great that I heard about respect and observance of the rights of other people at this performance from Evgeniy Grishkovets. This confirmed me in the correctness of my position. Although he placed more emphasis on the moral and ethical aspect of what happened, and, it should be noted, with respect and humor, from my professional psychological point of view, I consider this behavior as a consequence of a violation of healthy thinking and the emotional sphere of the individual. How and why this happens to a person, and what can be done about it, is a field of study for group members. But here it is still important to understand that being late is one of the other numerous signs of a disease called CODEPENDENCY, which in the International Classification of Diseases (ICD-10) in terms of severity and degree of impact on a person is between addiction and cancer. Just as it is useless to influence an alcoholic by appealing to conscience, reproaching him for bad behavior, it is equally impossible to “correct” a person if he is late and does not carry out internal work on unhealthy behavior. After all, being late, a person is in a state of social helplessness, which in this case manifests itself as irresponsibility. Together with Yulia Vasyukova