Are you familiar with the concept of a “good enough mother?” If not yet, then you definitely should - this idea is like a balm for a mother’s soul, corroded by experiences. The author of the theory is Donald Woods Winnicott, a famous British pediatrician and child psychoanalyst. He devoted more than 40 years to working with young children: carefully observing children's development, he was able to more subtly understand the important role of the mother in this process. And what is this role of a “good enough” mother? It is as follows: 1 ⃣ As soon as the child is born , establish a “holding” relationship with him (from the English “hold” to hold, store), i.e. create a safe and comfortable environment where all children's needs will be met. However, this period should not last too long!2⃣ Over time, taking short breaks in her care, it is important for the mother to encourage the child to turn to her own resources. The simplest example: do not fill the playpen/children's corner/crib with various toys, but lay them out on floor in the room so that the baby has a desire to move towards the object that has attracted his attention. Why is this important? Next to an ideal, caring mother, it is difficult for a child to become a truly mature, non-infantile person. Such a parent can hold her child tightly with her all her life, feeding him with her hyper-care and attention. Let us slightly expand the concept of a “good enough mother” and turn it into “good enough parents.” And why not? After all, both parents participate in the process of raising a child. A perfectionist father who strives to fulfill a child’s every wish can also harm his personal development. Here we can give an eloquent example of a father who dotes on his “little princess”; the girl only has to raise her eyebrows so that every whim is immediately fulfilled. Perhaps, in childhood, being the daughter of such a dad may seem like fabulous luck, but a grown-up girl can then spend her whole life painfully searching for such a man (thanks to dad, I tried my best to create an ideal male image), and not find... Over-care and satisfaction of absolutely all children's “I WANT” "is just as harmful as lack of care, attention and love. Moreover, it harms both children and parents themselves..