Only a Free and Responsible Person can raise a Free, and therefore Responsible Person. Each person in any life situation chooses that model of behavior and implements it in those ways that are most consistent with his personal life experience: awareness, individual capabilities at this moment in life. This idea can be expressed as follows. A person chooses the most effective behavior, in his opinion, based on individual experience and level of awareness. In this case, a person chooses the best option for a possible solution based on how he himself sees and perceives the situation, and at the same time relying on his own “arsenal of possible solutions.” Thus, offering someone your own way to solve his situation is the same thing what to offer someone else a suit (dress, coat) made according to my individual measurements. For someone very similar to me, it might work; in all other cases it will be someone else's clothes from someone else's shoulder. There are many more possibilities for solving a difficult situation than it seems at first glance. And among the new, potentially possible solutions, there are certainly more advanced and effective ones. Choosing a certain decision option and accepting responsibility for the consequences of this decision is a personal matter for the person himself. If a person chooses the most effective options for behavior from what he knows, the question is legitimate: - Where do we get educational models from? How do we choose this or that model of behavior in the family circle? (Task for analysis at home) Many parents do not immediately understand why think about what, in their opinion, is already obvious. Some “Obvious” and fairly common parental approaches to education: - My parents raised me without especially thinking about what and How; and I think they did it well. Since I am no worse than my parents, I can also cope with the task of raising my own children. - My job is to clothe, feed, educate (pay for education). Let the teachers at school or the leaders of children's clubs do the upbringing - they get paid for it. - As long as I can remember, I raised myself. The street, that is, the social environment, and diverse life experiences are my main universities. The time will come - and life will educate my child in the same way, teach him in the best way for him. A somewhat exaggerated presentation of these views, familiar to all of us, allows us to clearly emphasize their main essence. Despite all the differences and, at first glance, dissimilarity, all these approaches are united by one common detail. Parents, without realizing it, often refuse to take responsibility for raising their children. In the first case, responsibility is given to the so-called “social experience”, established social stereotypes. - Look how people from generation to generation do what our grandfathers and fathers did. Recreate their experience and everything will be fine. In the second case, responsibility for raising a child is transferred to specialists: teachers, educators, coaches, psychologists. - There are people who are specially trained in the basics of proper upbringing. This is their professional responsibility. Let them do the upbringing. Very often there is a transfer of responsibility from one parent to another or other family members: grandparents, older children, etc. - Let the mother (father) do the upbringing, but I have no time. In the third case, responsibility for raising the child is transmitted to the child himself and his life situation. - Life will teach you. Do not rush to disown each of the approaches described above: this is not about me. This time I really say with authority: each of us, parents, in certain difficult life situations sometimes chooses one of the mentioned approaches. He chooses when he cannot find a suitable, in his opinion, his own method of pedagogical influence on the child. Then the next question is: - Where do we get samples from?"