From the author: An article about the psychological characteristics of little boys and how they can be used in raising a child. My parental observations: “What, what, what are our boys made of? Our boys are made from freckles. And firecrackers, From rulers. And batteries! "Children's song Remember this song? Each boy is, of course, individual, and there is only one like him in the world. But maybe, after all, there are some common traits from which boyish characters are made? I am the mother of a five-year-old son and I watch him every day. In addition, I have many friends who have preschool-aged sons and with whom we communicate quite closely, discuss various situations in the lives of our children, think about how to help them solve their childhood difficulties, support them when they need it. The character traits of our growing future men also often become the subject of discussion. So, based on my own observations of my son and his peers, as well as from a very rich experience of communicating with them and their parents, I can say that some character traits are characteristic of almost all boys with rare exceptions. Probably, these are the very characteristics of a man’s character that are inherent in nature itself. In addition, at the moment, I still have a little daughter growing up, watching whom and comparing her behavior with the behavior of her brother, I can once again confirm that the character of a girl and the character of a boy are two different characters. So what are our boys made of? I will try to answer this question based on my own experience and the experience of my friends. I will also try to describe effective techniques in communicating with little boys that I myself and the parents I know use. From the desire for leadership. Any boy, even the most inconspicuous quiet one, secretly dreams of commanding the parade of his life. And not only yours. And not only in secret. Most little boys actively defend their right to lead the process (be it a game or simple communication) and show “who is in charge.” Hence all their “I want!”, “Give it back!” What should parents do? How to teach two people who are naturally designed to be leaders to negotiate? The answer to this question lies in the question itself. You need to teach your child to negotiate. How? To begin with, when communicating with your son, try to use the phrases: “Let’s do this”; "Listen to me"; "How do you think?"; “Look at me” and other phrases we use when we negotiate something with someone. In other words, start negotiating with your son yourself. It is not directive to tell him what needs to be done and how, but to negotiate. Listen to his opinion and take it into account when making decisions affecting him. For example, when you go to the store together, you can ask if he needs to buy something and tell him what you want to buy yourself. If you do this, the baby will no longer beg in the store for everything he sees on the shelves. From a perpetual motion machine. All the little boys I know have very high motor activity. And jumping too. And grasping. In psychology, this is called the leading kinesthetic channel of perception. Our boys explore the world around them through sensations and touches. This boyish characteristic can be used well for training. My son and I have never had problems memorizing poems; he learns them quickly and they remain in his memory for quite a long time. Because when we learn a poem, we use one tricky trick. For each line of the poem we come up with a certain gesture, we try not only to tell, but also to show the poem. Thus, we are killing two birds with one stone: it is easier to remember and is told more expressively! Out of curiosity. Oh, these eternal children's “Why?”, so annoying and perplexing more than one generation of parents! But curiosity is a very good trait! And every time we brush off another.