Often in my office or at online appointments there are people with obsessive-compulsive disorder or people whose loved ones have OCD. The cup should stand only there, and nowhere else... You cannot deviate from the schedule.. Everything must go according to plan... A loved one should behave this way, and not differently, not deviate from the expected course... Frequent hand washing, floors, repeated checks of closed doors... These are the symptoms of OCD, in fact, there are more of them, these manifestations. People who have obsessive control, which can be expressed in repetitive actions and thoughts, have difficulties in relationships. After all, OCD can greatly limit life, as it becomes overgrown with a large number of rituals and rules. Often their loved ones are offended, considering the demands of a person with OCD to be pretensions. After all, breaking the rules of a person who has a system of rules is often like stepping on an emotional landmine. Violation of this system of rules can throw a person with OCD out of balance and greatly increase anxiety, which goes off scale. It also happens that a person who has OCD controls loved ones and their manifestations, imposing their rituals on them. Likewise, a person who has obsessive control can become offended by loved ones, get angry and even break off relations with those who do not fit into this system of rules. What to do? It is important to understand that the underlying cause of OCD, compulsive control, is high anxiety. Sometimes it goes off scale, and people with OCD often have attacks. To help, it is recommended to reduce anxiety with medications from a psychiatrist and therapy. From my approach I take behavioral techniques, they work well, if the client is ready for long-term psychological correction - great. But you can start with a course of behavioral therapy and working with symptoms to reduce their intensity and impact on life, which can be very limited by rituals. It will be useful for loved ones to learn about what OCD is and how such a person feels, to understand that a loved one with OCD controls everything not out of “harmfulness,” but because his anxiety dictates so. And help you seek qualified help: a psychiatrist and psychologist. Ekaterina Sorokina, your psychologist