In an ideal world, spouses who naturally love each other, after some time of a cloudless life together, get back on their feet, plan the birth of a child together, check their health, give up bad habits - oh, they couldn’t exist in an ideal family... and nine months after conception, a rosy-cheeked baby is born, and then happy mom and dad raise him in unconditional love and acceptance. But you and I live in the real world , in which at any moment something can go wrong. My article will talk about fatherhood, its less-than-ideal manifestations, as well as the consequences in the lives of children who were not loved by their fathers. Of course, maternal love also plays a huge role in the life of a child, but today we will not talk about it. Practice shows that not all men, having become dads, have warm feelings for their children. And some of them definitely feel love, but impose strictness on themselves so as not to spoil their child; someone loves, but cannot show his love, does not know how, because he was not taught this in childhood, in his parental family, because they did not love him either. Why can a father not love, not accept his child? - A woman became pregnant “on the fly” and gives birth against the will of the man, “for herself,” or the man agreed under pressure, not sincerely. Over time, such a dad may well love his child and accept him with all his heart, but this does not always happen. - A man does not love a woman and, as a result, does not love their child together. - A man is extremely selfish, even self-centered. He enjoyed his young and cheerful life with his wife; he enjoyed motorcycle rides, hikes, camping, parties, open airs, and nightclubs. And when his wife became pregnant, and then gave birth to this screaming creature that was preventing him from living, he was extremely dissatisfied. His life was divided into “before” and “after,” and the grown-up child quietly slipped past his always dissatisfied dad and approached his mother when she was alone. “The man himself is still psychologically a child.” Infantilism, irresponsibility. He perceives the child as his rival, is jealous of his wife, takes offense, starts scandals. - Some men divorce not only their wives, but also their children according to the principle “out of sight, out of mind.” Whether they love their children or not is a matter of guesswork, but in practice they are not present in their children’s lives, which makes their children feel abandoned, forgotten, and unloved. Moms often add fuel to the fire by blaspheming dad, for what it’s worth, for his worthlessness and telling the child that he is a copy of his good-for-nothing dad. - A man doesn’t know how to love or care for someone, he has a fear of intimacy, unprocessed childhood traumas, which arise at the birth of a child and, as a result, avoidance. - A father can love his children selectively: he loves his youngest sweetheart daughter, but keeps his eldest son, a fool, with a tight rein. Or: dad wanted a boy, but a girl was born. And he is extremely dissatisfied, does not accept his daughter, and may try to raise her like a boy. In general, there are a lot of options for a father’s dislike. And the consequences of this lack of love - a cold, cruel, aggressive, absent father - can seriously affect a person’s fate, his mental state and behavior. The absence of fatherly love leaves deep emotional scars that can affect a person’s mental state and behavior. Feelings of insecurity, a desire to prove one's independence, a lack of empathy and compassion, and excessive self-criticism are all warning signs that indicate an unloving father. However, each person is unique, and his reaction to the lack of love can be individual, depending on his psychological stability and abilities. Anna Sedelnikova, psychologistGirls who were not loved by their father find it difficult to perceive their femininity and express it; they often find themselves the same cold, emotionally immature men who are unable to love their wife and be good fathers.A.