Alcoholism is a disease. Drinking alcohol means forgetting all other interests. Moreover, the disease is purely selfish. An alcoholic cannot exist alone. He is helpless without people. All people who care for an alcoholic are “donors”: someone gives money, someone provides shelter, someone emotionally supports and solves all the problems and troubles that the addict creates. Moreover, some of the “donors” are rather “victims”; they sacrifice themselves, that is, they die along with the alcoholic. For the most part, these are close and relatives - mother, father, wife, brothers, sisters, children. Such people are also called codependent, one might say they have the same deep-seated disorders as an alcoholic. For example, a person cannot feel good without the object of dependence. A real or virtual threat causes severe discomfort, tension, and anxiety. This applies to both relationship and chemical addiction. Dependence is formed in childhood in response to early rejection, when the child cannot cope with such a situation due to emotional and physical immaturity. Subsequent behavior will be aimed at avoiding all those feelings that arose at the time of injury, with an attempt to master the situation, for example, by drinking alcohol. Other people can be called “simps” who, out of weakness, laziness, and indifference, will support and sponsor the alcoholic. These are friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, boss. For an alcoholic, all these people, both “victims” and “simpletons,” are simply means to achieve the most important goal—the substance. And their value is the same, for example, as a shovel to dig a trench, or as a refrigerator containing vodka. That is, for an alcoholic, all people are objects. This means they can be manipulated, including deceived, betrayed, and forgotten. Subject-object relations, the other is impersonal, its value is negligible. Therefore, in the long term, in the process of personal therapy, group classes, it is wonderful if an addicted person opens subject relations, when a person is a person, and not a means, an object for manipulation. And this is a long and continuous process of personal development. And it obeys the law of quantitative and qualitative changes. Development does not occur in spurts, not at one moment, but slowly and gradually with the accumulation of quantitative changes. And it requires constant and focused effort, daily, for years. The belief of chemically dependent people in “files”, “codings” is touching, that is, faith in miracles, in finding happiness without work and responsibility for oneself and one’s condition.