When it is uncomfortable for a person to lie on one side, he turns over to the other, and when it is uncomfortable for him to live, he only complains. And you make an effort - turn over. M. Gorky It is a well-known fact that becoming happy requires approximately the same amount of energy as being unhappy. I will not write here about responsibility, about the fact that each of us is responsible for that share of happiness or unhappiness which he is experiencing. I will try to give a few recommendations for those who firmly believe that a lot depends on them, want to make their life brighter and richer and are ready to work for it. I’ll start in the morning: 1. Awakening. How comfortable is it for you? Do you get up with a sense of doom and the look of a martyr going to trial? Every new day is a blank slate, is it worth starting it with blots and black spots? Ecological thinking is aimed at teaching a person to notice good and positive things in his life, to see the opportunities that open up every day. The habit of going to the mirror every morning, smiling and wishing yourself a good day gradually creates a positive resource. Wishing a good day to your loved ones increases this resource significantly. Pleasant music on the alarm clock, comfortable and pleasing home clothes and a thousand other little things create a feeling of comfort and well-being.2. Physical exercise. They are needed not only for the body. Physical exercise, gymnastics, and dancing relieve stress and make the body more resilient. There is no need at all to lift weights or jump on the steppe for an hour and a half a day. At least 15 minutes a day. If you have any difficult experiences, finish your usual exercises with muscle stretching - these exercises are easy to find. When the muscles stretch within the limits of tolerance of unpleasant sensations, the mental pain gradually goes away. Swimming pool relieves stress well.3. Environment. Remove toxic people from your life whenever possible. Toxic people are those around whom you experience negative feelings and experiences over and over again. Yes, you, the reader, are definitely not perfect, however, you should not allow people to explain cruelty and rudeness towards you according to the principle: “you deserve it,” “you took me out,” “you can’t be treated nicely.” Believe me, a worthy person - even if he really doesn’t like something - at worst will limit interaction with you, but in no case will he humiliate, press or beat, both literally and figuratively. Constant pressure and convincing you that you are doing something wrong, living incorrectly, reacting incorrectly and breathing incorrectly is a type of psychological abuse. And another manifestation of psychological violence is the message: “everything seems to you, it’s me who cares about you so much.” At the same time, develop in yourself the art of attracting people into your life with whom you are comfortable and interested. Answer these questions: Can you be the first to make contact to meet an interesting person? Can you be the first to help smooth out a quarrel that seems ridiculous to you? What good can you give to the person next to you? You can do this exercise called “Map of my interaction” - on a blank album sheet, draw a large circle; in its center, mark a small circle with the letter “I” - take multi-colored pencils and mark different people with them your life at that distance of the center, as it seems true to you according to your feelings. include in the drawing those with whom you do not communicate now, but there are certain emotions, including anger, hatred. - draw orbits for each marked point - a person, put initials indicating names. - now look at what those people are telling you colors you used in your drawing? What emotional sensations experienced from communicating with this particular person can this color be associated with? - see if you are satisfied with the distance at which this or that person is located? I wish you had it.