Many people at some point realize that they are not happy in their family life, that love has disappeared somewhere, the former passion has come to naught, and love, about which they talk so much, never came, and perhaps died quietly... Or perhaps this, as they say, is not at all what you think, and your family is going through one of the normative life crises, and not yet lost? What you can read about in the selection: Family life cycle. Normative family crises. But let us return to the topic of the publication, in which our hero, let it be a man - for the convenience of describing a typical situation (although there may be a woman in his place), understands that he does not love his wife, perhaps he respects her as friend, like the mother of her children, but she no longer evokes in him either sexual desire or emotional response. How and when she became a stranger to him - it doesn’t fit well in his head. But he feels that for her now he too is a neighbor in the “dorm”, the father of her children, a man whom she does not hesitate to call worthless , no... But, as the great Pushkin wrote: “A habit has been given to us from above: It is a substitute for happiness.” Despite such a clear awareness of dislike, living next to a stranger who irritates you, physically unpleasant to you, to the point of disgust from his smell, is far from everyone decides to divorce. Because divorce is usually followed by the division of property, and sometimes children: for mom - a daughter, and for dad - a son, division of friends, public censure, condemnation from parents and their grief, because there will be no divorces in their family should. But what can I say: the usual way of life, an established way of life, is collapsing, often you have to rent an apartment, etc. Alimony that a man will need to pay for the maintenance of children. And how alarming and unnatural it is to become a “Sunday” dad... A significant factor due to which many responsible people, self-respecting parents who love their children do not decide to divorce is the happiness, well-being of the children. And many (statistics are unknown, but I feel - there are quite a few of them) decide for themselves that they will “tolerate” all the above-mentioned “little things in life” and will not get a divorce in order to raise their children in a complete family. Many questions arise that, when making such a decision, it would be useful to discuss with a psychologist .What is this? A feat in the name of children? Cowardice and conformity for the sake of material gain, convenience, habit? A crime against oneself and one’s nature, one’s personal happiness? Will such a decision be justified? What are its pros and cons? Will children grow up happy in such a family? ?Will they appreciate the sacrifice that their parents made for them? Will they then be able to be happy in their relationship? When will the person who makes such a decision be able to live “for himself”? I will not answer the questions I asked in this article , if only because the answers to them may vary depending on the context and many factors. But I think that it is necessary to answer them for yourself so that the decision you make is actually responsible. And, the main thing is that a person answers all these questions honestly, and not just hides behind the phrase of a martyr: “I will save my family for the sake of the children.” ...And, if you save the family “for the sake of the children,” then it would also be useful to work on improving the relationship between the spouses. Is it possible to save a family without love for your wife (husband) for the sake of the children? You can sign up for a consultation through a personal message on the website , by phone +7 916 158 13 08 (Whats App or Telegram is preferable)