“Let's get acquainted” is a common phrase with which correspondence on dating sites begins. It would seem that here in front of you are dozens and hundreds of profiles of men and women from different cities and even countries. There is no need to rack your brains about where to go to meet a serious person for a relationship. All you need is a computer and free minutes (hours for some). But “for some reason” there are no fewer lonely people of different ages around, dreaming of close relationships, but not having them. To answers that “explain” the absence of a partner like: “Yes, I don’t have time to go to clubs (libraries, parks, cafes, etc.) - work, home, chores.” They are now adding more and more often: “Yes, on dating sites there are only... (womanizers, freaks, boors, perverts). There are no normal men there.” That is, even despite the presence of a technical tool in the modern world, specially created for people to get closer and get to know each other, the problems of loneliness, the absence of a loved one are still very relevant. No technical invention can affect what actually controls a person's ability to enter into relationships, love and form a family. If a woman is ready for a relationship and believes that she will definitely have one in her life, then a dating site can indeed be the space where her acquaintance will take place. And it can be a big misconception to explain unsuccessful relationships that began through correspondence by the fact that: “It is impossible to meet a worthy man on the site.” Dating sites are the same people who live with you in your city, area and home. And our internal fears, beliefs and ideas play a huge role in the ability to establish relationships, and even more so to maintain them. Dating through correspondence, of course, has its own characteristics and nuances. But even if you navigate them well, you will “meet” someone who, like a puzzle, will “fit” into your inner picture of the world. And through written speech, we unconsciously “single out” someone whose writing style seems familiar, understandable, and our own to us. Later, if the relationship did not continue or broke down, we shake our heads irritably: “Another fool caught.” And it doesn’t even occur to us that it’s not him like this and that, but WE OURSELVES chose the next “wrong one” according to the action of the mechanisms of our psyche, which we are not aware of. In the space of correspondence there are many opportunities to unconsciously “get to know” someone who will correspond to our internal attitudes and limitations. And regardless of where we meet, the choice will be made according to this internal correspondence. If I am internally convinced that all men are weaklings, then no matter how consciously I dream of a strong and responsible spouse, I will only come across weaklings. Or rather, I will consider any man as such. If I believe deep within myself that I have nothing to attract a successful and caring man, then no matter what dress I wear, no matter what “I am a queen” mask I wear, alas, the king will not appear next to me. Only meaningful and Deep work on yourself in the mode of self-reflection or with a specialist psychologist to identify your limitations can help build a new world of your internal representation. And only after changing the internal picture of the world, this very world outside can miraculously change. And by agreeing to the proposal “Let’s get acquainted”, you will soon find the very relationship you have long dreamed of.