From the author: A fascinating technique for working with children and adult clients Diagnostic-therapeutic technique “wish store” Sometimes clients come with so many requests! Wow! And I want this and that is desirable, and at least a little bit of this, and that in addition. And he throws his darling from one extreme to the other and from side to side, and where is this golden mean called “the norm”? This is what needs to be found. For example, a client comes and asks to be provided with “with a wave of a magic wand” many of his wishes - more than 10 to be exact. No, of course, he understood that he would have to work himself. But there was no certainty. I propose to rank your desires and we come across obstacles in terms of the impossibility of determining priority, from the series “I want everything at once!” Where does it come from? And why? To be honest, I was more concerned with the question “why” and “what for” and we started working with this. As a result, “why” resulted in ignorance of myself to the self-awareness of my body, not only my desires. And the “why” became clear in the form of an evasion of responsibility. After all, when I want everything, it’s almost nothing. If I can’t have everything at once, then why do anything? It’s easier to just dream and expect someone to fulfill your desires. That is why grievances and complaints against other people are actively used. Like, for example, the wife (husband) is not the same, the mother is not the same. And the mother-in-law (mother-in-law) is finally a bitch. I asked the client how he would describe himself. The answer was - I don’t understand myself, I don’t feel like I’m doing everything for everyone, I owe everything to everyone. I don’t understand why he should. This answer explained the multiplicity of his desires and the impossibility of achieving them. Then I used the “Wish Store” technique. “Wish Store” technique Imagine that you went for a walk in the forest. For example, picking mushrooms, or collecting golden autumn leaves in the autumn forest. Or for a picnic. You accidentally fell behind your friends and got lost. Now think about what you want? What are your feelings at this moment, when you discover that you are lost? Next: you are wandering through the forest and realize that there is no way out! Enough time has passed. It's starting to get dark - there is no way out..... how do you feel now? your thoughts? How do you feel? And suddenly: when hope is almost lost, you go out into a clearing and see a hut there. On which in large printed font hangs the inscription “the store of your desires.” How do you feel now? Do you think, do you feel? what are your internal changes? What has changed for you in the external environment? What matters most to you right now? Go to the wish store and see inside the hut shelves with closed drawers - many small and medium-sized and larger drawers of different colors of the rainbow. What do you want and feel now? What do you want to do? (for example - take everything or just be curious... or leave, run away...). There is a seller behind the counter. What is he like? Describe it. What do you feel and expect now? What do you want to do? (for example, it would be better if there was no seller (like, it just gets in the way. Or - how good it is that there is a seller!...). You ask the seller - what are you asking him about at that moment??? (for example, how much are Desires ....).What does the seller answer? - (for example - so much. Or - less 10 and more 20. Yellow - 30 and red 50.....) In fact, in this technique, the seller answers. , that for every desire you have to pay with what is valuable to you. The seller asks: “What value can you give for your desire?” - exchange value for desire. What kind of values ​​can these be for you? After all, in order to exchange your values ​​for desires - you need to at least decide on their existence. Right? And then, if they exist, we can get what we want. And if the values ​​are blurred, then the desires are not achievable! After the last questions, there is a deep work to be done to determine. our own, not our own values. After all, it is the vagueness and multiplicity of desires that suggests that most of them are not ours. And in order to cross them out, we need to understand why we use desires that are not ours, whose goals (settings) we follow. so far.