As part of the preventive campaign “A House Without Violence”. “We love you, baby!” People want to be happy. We all often talk about this, reasoning and understanding this very happiness in our own way. But our baby does not yet know or understand what this happiness is. But every child, regardless of age, nationality, social status, wants to feel peace of mind from the fact that a loved one is nearby. The little man wants to be understood and the most, most beloved child on earth. And the happiness of this little man depends on us, adults. Imagine for a moment that somewhere, where you are not next to your baby, some adult and not a good person is screaming and God forbid beating your baby. What does this fantasy evoke in you? Yes! Anger, anger and aggression. You feel hurt and sorry for your child, who is being shouted at by a less than adequate person. And if you heard and saw this, you would respond to the offender in his own manner. But your child is still small and cannot resist aggression and violence from an adult and strong person. What will your child do? That's right - he will get scared, maybe cry and gain a new negative experience. So why do we, loved ones and relatives, who are supposed to provide security and love, often shout at our own children, humiliate them, call them names, and beat them. What they experience at the same time, we said earlier. But who will stand up for them in this situation? What experience will a child have of domestic violence? I think even more traumatic than from communicating with someone else’s aggressive adult. A child learns about the world around him through close people. By exposing them to violence, you distort your child's perception of the world. He will see him as cruel and dangerous. Absolute control over a child and obedience will deprive him of initiative and independence. In the future, the parent's behavior model will become the standard for the child's behavior. For example, if his parents used physical punishment, then as an adult he will also use a belt in his family. In case of domestic violence, the basic principle of the family is violated - the safe existence of any of its members. There are four main forms of violence against children: psychological, physical, sexual and neglect of the child's basic needs. All forms of violence are closely interconnected. Violent influence on the psyche entails disruption of the functions of various organs and the baby’s body as a whole. Physical or sexual abuse of a child, and even more so, neglect of the child’s basic needs, as a rule, entails mental trauma. Loud shouting at a child, rude and insulting treatment, inattention, harsh criticism, name-calling, ridicule, humiliation, threats, destruction of a child’s personal belongings is considered almost the norm in every fourth family. You say: “We are adults, we must raise our children!” But what do such methods of education give? I will answer: uncertainty, anxiety, low self-esteem, inability to make independent decisions, aggression, often self-aggression and constant stress. Are these parenting methods good? I think no. Each of us can lose his temper and be rude to both our child, a loved one, and another adult. In this situation, you need to ask for forgiveness and explain your behavior. And it doesn’t matter who to ask for forgiveness: a child, a friend or a work colleague. All these people have an equal right to be treated with respect. And your child is just learning the norms of communication in the modern world. And this world will be clearer to him if you talk and explain more to your baby. A calm tone will give more information to the child than your face distorted with a grimace of anger. Every child is a person! And every person has the right to be happy!