“I can’t trust anyone!” People usually pronounce this phrase very theatrically. They roll their eyes, put their palm on their chest and glance sadly at their interlocutor. And the interlocutor nods understandingly in response. And yet they rush around with this mistrust. They suffer, burn bridges, avoid meetings, are rude, close themselves off... The main thing is not to hurt the “mistrust.” Or they say: “I have been betrayed so many times! I don’t want to experience pain anymore,” implying that they are not going to trust anyone anymore. The most offensive thing is that there is no way to protect yourself from pain. Well, out of happiness, easily. Distrust of the world around us can be reasonable. You shouldn’t let strangers into your house, give out your card PIN code, don’t use protection, drink with fellow travelers on the train... But sealing your feelings and hanging a “do not disturb” sign is another way. You can't just turn off some of your emotions. Now I won’t experience pain, but give me joy and pleasure. If you retreat into the impenetrable shell of “all are traitors,” you bury ALL your emotions in it. You will no longer be able to fall in love, admire, get bored, feel closeness... And forget about wonderful sex. By choosing tension, you give up happiness. For what? Because it's scary! Of course you have your reasons for this. Most likely, you have experienced emotional trauma. But by shutting yourself off from people and relationships with them, you are not protecting yourself from trauma, you are only freezing. Stop and think about what you really want? We all want to be happy and loved. And this state is only possible when you are open and, to some extent, defenseless. Yes. You may fail again, experience pain again. But you can love and get your chance at happiness. There is psychotherapy, after all! Techniques that will help you easily experience new disappointments and cope with difficulties. You can learn to experience dark streaks to your advantage and you will only become stronger. You can choose freedom and warmth. Open up to the world and start trusting. Remove the needle-like shell and show the soft belly). In this state, you will attract the same open and warm people to you like a magnet. And with each new experience, trust will only grow. Do you know how to trust without reasons or checks? Do you think this makes sense? Or is it still very dangerous??