From the author: S-theoryTraining company PartnerWhen the right of “autonomy” is violated, there are again three options for the development of events. The first is normal, when everything goes exactly as it should, i.e. a person enters into a struggle only with those and when it is really necessary for his autonomy, the rest of the time, preferring a peaceful resolution of the issue through the conclusion of transactions, mutually beneficial exchange. The remaining two are formed when a right is violated. When the skill of struggle is too developed and the right to autonomy is violated, the need arises to defend this right. This type of people is prone to a dictatorial lifestyle. It is quite obvious to them that only the ability to dictate their own terms and set their own rules will ensure the satisfaction of the need for autonomy. The desire for power can take on exaggerated forms in such people, declaring at the same time that they are “responsible for everything.” Setting themselves up as a model in everything, they talk about their own infallibility and sinlessness. The main goal in this case is only the ability to force others to ensure the natural rights of the dictator. If the child does not have the skill of autonomy, then he chooses the path of personal attractiveness and loyalty. Such a person tends to perceive himself and, accordingly, present himself to others as an “eternal student.” He feels guilty for not being able to carry out his parents' orders. Therefore, such a person seeks to shift the need to make decisions onto the shoulders of other people. He is very susceptible to various kinds of rules and rituals, because it is the regulations and rules that allow him to satisfy his needs and autonomy without feeling guilty. After all, it was not he who made such a decision, but it’s just supposed to be done, “so it says in the scriptures,” “so the elder said,” “so it is written in the charter,” etc., the justification can be very different, as long as you don’t choose. Moreover, he really wants to be “good” and “obedient,” and “the elders know better what is good and what is bad.” And if there is a need to choose between something, then this can generally lead him to a neurotic conflict.