From the author: Probably not a single action of children causes more hostility in parents than their aggression... Parents are often frightened by children's aggressiveness. Indeed, this problem is relevant in our time. And this question especially worries parents whose children are prone to similar manifestations in various forms. It is not easy for them to admit that it is their child who is aggressive and is the source of trouble, problems in the kindergarten group, in the yard or at school. Many experts believe that aggressiveness is an acquired behavior. Where could a child learn aggression? Indeed, this trait is often inherited and has its basis in the character of the child’s parents and grandparents. Perhaps it is the reaction of a close adult to the child’s behavior that gives rise to his aggression? However, a child can be aggressive not only due to the fault of the parents, i.e. improper upbringing. Traits of aggressiveness may be hidden in the child’s temperament and character (hot temper, frequent mood swings, reduced empathy, resentment, cruelty, oppression, anger, etc.) or be the result of a special maturation of his nervous system. Residual organic factors, for example, such as minimal brain dysfunction or brain injury, can also influence. Factors that provoke a child’s aggressiveness include social and everyday factors (unfavorable upbringing conditions, conflicts between parents or their divorce, hostility, suppression or humiliation of the child, strict control, reproaches, unfounded claims, etc.) and situational reasons (response on aggression, overwork, sensitivity to reproach, resistance to punishment, etc.), It is worth noting that a certain aggressiveness is inevitably inherent in a child at an early age. Knowing this, adults should be prepared for its manifestation. But, if parents actively help the child consolidate it, then aggression remains a stable character trait and persists throughout the person’s future life. It can be assumed that already at preschool age certain internal prerequisites are formed that contribute to its manifestation. Children prone to violence differ significantly from their peace-loving peers not only in external behavior, but also in psychological characteristics. When a child behaves aggressively, most often adults condemn such behavior, punish, reprimand him, and, often, they themselves lose control over their own emotions, becoming “aggressors”. At the moment when an adult reproaches, he is driven by a childish sense of superiority and omnipotence. It’s easy to be “huge and strong” over “small and weak”! We, adults, are afraid of aggressiveness, but sometimes we ourselves transmit it to our children, while forbidding them to show it. Aggression has several definitions, but they all imply “a focus on causing harm to another, insults, humiliation, cruelty, hostility, etc.” In addition to physical aggression among children (and not only), verbal aggression is also clearly manifested. Therefore, damage to another can be both physical and psychological (a blow to the body or pride). Most often, the vast majority of children experience direct and indirect verbal aggression - from complaints and aggressive fantasies (“I’ll call the bandits, they will beat you, stab you”) to direct insults (“Fat”, “Fool”, “Bespectacled Man”, “Sneak”) . Physical aggression can also manifest itself, both indirectly and directly. Indirect - destruction of the products of a friend’s activity (a child destroys a building made of cubes or sand, crosses out or crumples another’s drawing); damage or destruction of other people's things (a child forcefully throws a typewriter on the floor, watching with satisfaction the tears of its owner; breaks his mother's favorite cup, taking pleasure in her distress). Direct physical aggression is a direct attack on another and causing him physical pain and destruction. Can take two forms - symbolic andreal. symbolic - threats and intimidation (the child scares a friend, shakes his fist, broadcasts threatening facial expressions and gestures); real aggression is a direct physical attack (scratching, grabbing hair, biting, beating with hands and feet, use as a “weapon” sticks, cubes, etc.).To understand the causes of aggression, it is necessary to identify its motives and, of course, accompanying experiences. Each aggressive act has a specific reason and manifests itself in a specific situation. Among the situations that provoke aggressiveness: emphasizing his superiority, the child infringes on the dignity of another (noticing that a playmate is upset due to the lack of parts of the designer, the boy begins to joyfully shout: “Ha-ha-ha, that’s what you want! Chicken is lipstick!” You won’t succeed! Hurray!”) the desire to attract the attention of peers or adults (the boy snatches the coloring book from the girl, scatters the toys and begins to make loud barking sounds, imitating an angry dog, which naturally attracts attention); response. to aggression - to take revenge or defend oneself (a bright outburst of aggression or the child hatches a “plan for revenge” and unexpectedly “attacks” the offender); desire and desire to be in charge, first (having lost in a competition, the child “attacks” the “best”, trying to inflict physical pain, often accompanied by verbal abuse); the desire to get a desired object (direct violence against a peer because of a toy). Jealousy is a negative feeling that arises from a feeling of lack of attention and love from a significant object. (aggression can be directed at the person whose affection the child wants to win, or at his “competitor”: the parent, for “pedagogical” purposes, praised his friend for his diligent behavior in front of her son; the boy may begin to show negativity towards his mother or the “culprit” who dared to steal his mother’s attention and praise) fatigue, overwork (if the child did not get enough sleep, got tired in class or was engaged in uninteresting monotonous activities for a long time, etc., he may begin to throw toys around, scream, bully his peers, i.e. destructive actions).unfulfilled expectations of the child and as a result of the inability to control their impulses, desires, inability to control them. Suppression and strict prohibition by adults on showing aggression towards other people leads to auto-aggression - the child causes self-harm and self-torture (bites, scratches, beats yourself). However, aggressiveness has several sides: not only negative and painful, but also positive, healthy. It can manifest itself in resistance or disobedience, isolation or hostility, but also in activity, experimentation, and a spirit of initiative. Aggression can make a child, and subsequently an adult, stubborn, striving to achieve goals and success, or weak-willed, insecure, an opportunist. These derivatives can be considered further. But the task that every parent faces is to learn to recognize aggression in a child and help him cope with it. After all, growing up, a person becomes a creator or destroyer of his own and other people’s lives, and how he grows up largely depends on us, adults. To do this, it is necessary to understand the nature and origin of aggression. For example, in the crying of a baby, a mother can easily hear anger and indignation. The reason is simple: the baby is not allowed to do something or is denied something, and perhaps he is hungry, and that is why he is indignant. The child’s crying is a natural expression of some kind of dissatisfaction: physical or mental pain. From birth, the child is completely dependent on his parents. And, moreover, this situation suits many adults, who artificially try to maintain this position, infantilizing him and making him helpless. This demonstrates their significance, omnipotence and fulfills the need for power and pressure. Parents who, in raising and interacting with their children,...