How to grow up without the help of a psychologist? Is this possible? Especially when the number in your passport indicates that you are far over 16... Childhood seems to be over, youth has passed, and the long-awaited adult life has not come. You still live with your parents, ask advice from relatives or a few friends on social media. networks, you depend financially on your parents and... you feel burdened by your life, because deep down you understand that it shouldn’t be this way. Sound familiar? Then this article is for you! In it I will talk about a very interesting and non-trivial way to grow up, to become not just a physically adult, but to start making independent decisions, relying on yourself, planning your budget, coping with difficulties and difficulties. This method was “discovered” by me by accident, at the moment when I was writing down my impressions of my next vacation trip. And indeed, you have probably noticed that all people approach travel differently: - there are those who do not like to leave their home or apartment at all, for them a holiday in a new place is real stress. - there are those who can go to travel, but only to those places that are well known, such people from year to year go to the same resorts, to the same hotels and even rooms) - there are those people who travel exclusively with their relatives: mother, dad, wife, children, etc. - there are those who travel with a company or for a company - there are those who travel alone - and those for whom travel becomes necessary like air. About each of these people one could do a certain assumption (diagnosis) of his level of security, stress, ability to make decisions and take risks, relationships with himself and the world around him. After all, traveling to another city, to another country is not just a vacation, it is also an excellent training for your “adult” character qualities, on your skills and abilities. So, what can you train, develop and improve during this “training”: Communication skills. Any new place is always a mystery, and we need to make a lot of effort to explain how to get to this street, for example, or how to get a ticket from this machine, and if you don’t know the language, it’s even better, in which case you’ll have to resort to sign language, facial expressions! I remembered one case in Italy, when I, not knowing the language, tried to find out which metro station I should get off at to get to the park. And I succeeded! Planning and responsibility. When you travel on your own, everything depends only on you - if you didn’t worry about accommodation in advance, you’ll be looking in the dark and it’s not a fact that what you’ll be offered will suit you; - if you haven’t built a travel route, you may not see many interesting places; Or, on the contrary, you can trust your intuition. In any case, at such moments you understand and realize especially clearly how much your life is connected with your actions or inactions. The ability to make decisions independently and find ways out of difficult situations. Often when traveling, unplanned situations arise that require your immediate solution. Drive this road or another, where to get help in case of an accident, etc. And here there is no time, opportunity, to call and ask “knowledgeable” people, here you yourself have to choose, make decisions, think and find a way out. Financial planning. There is a certain amount that you take with you on a trip and you need to clearly fit into this budget. And here you already correlate your desires with your capabilities, you know that if you buy this thing, you will have to eat street food, and perhaps you won’t have enough for a ticket to this cathedral or another place. Self-confidence, the ability to defend your rights. Many people lack this quality; they consider themselves unworthy; it is better to remain silent and push their needs aside. For example, in hotels, when they give you a room of the wrong category. Or a tourist guide who did not show the places that were stated in the program. Put aside fears and doubts. Often it is fears!