Conflict is a clash of interests (literally “collided”), as well as a way of resolving contradictions, which is accompanied by negative emotions and goes “beyond” the norms✅We connect the triad 1 BODY-2 FEELINGS-3 THOUGHTS1. BODY. We scan the body (breathing, heartbeat, tension in the arms, legs, jaw and any other parts of the body). We pay attention to the problem area: breathing through it, mental hugs, etc. It is important to understand: the body is the basis of the psychophysical state. Help your body feel calmer - and you are already controlling it, not it controlling you. Because you paid due attention to it, the body feels good to be under the guidance of an experienced leader 😎2. FEELINGS. Ask yourself a strange question: how old are you now, Volodya? (Olga Ilyinichna, Ivan Ivanovich)... Remember that you are already 32 (18, 41, 85)... It is important to understand that when you experience strong negative emotions - irritation, anger, fear, pain - they are not about your conflict partner . They are about some childhood story where you lacked the support of your parent. An adult view of the situation. Solutions. Good news! Now you yourself are already an adult😃3. THOUGHTS. Working with your body and emotions will allow you to approach a more, so to speak, higher level - thoughts. Now is the time to ask the question: What is my goal now? If “the game is worth the candle,” then it is necessary to clarify the conflict and look for a solution jointly with the partner. It happens that the game is not worth the candle. There is no point in directing your energy there. But if it is still important, then: 👉 remember your goal, your interests 👉 listen to your partner without interrupting 👉 by doing this you will show respect, and you will also be able to mentally be in his place, try on his interests 👉 thank partner for sincerity, for spending time on this situation, which means you already have something in common - interest in this situation, look for common interests👉offer to look for a solution TOGETHER👉 remain soft to the person and firm to the problem...You can connect and the Child-Parent-Adult triad, then the child will approximately correspond to the first level of work, the parent to the second, and the adult to the third ✅Remember, any conflict is just a clash of interests, if you are very flattened, it means there are unconscious transfers to the conflict partner and they can be quite disturbing in finding a solution✅There is only one recommendation - to seek help from a specialist✅And conflict is the same part of communication as the absence of conflict😊And conflict is a resource for necessary changes❤With respect to communication and conflict , psychologist, supervisor, Olga Ilyinichna UdaltsovaP. S.: in the photo there are conflicting parties😁. What do they have in common? What's different between them? What other signs could this group be divided and conflict?🙏Many thanks to fellow supervisors and our last Balint group for my new feelings and understanding in the conflict