Hello friends! I already had an article on the topic of devaluation (of oneself, one’s work, the results of one’s activities...). Today I want to talk to you about how girls, women, and sometimes men, offend themselves, where it comes from and what to do about it... First of all, let's figure it out - how does it offend yourself? Most often, you offend yourself if: - committing a rash act or mistake, you begin to scold yourself, reproach yourself for inattention, stupidity, mediocrity and all mortal sins; - knowing that you don’t want to do something, you still force yourself; - Mentally say all sorts of nasty things to yourself about what you don’t like about yourself, but at the same time you don’t try to somehow correct the situation; - You choose those people around you who will humiliate, offend, condemn you and fuel their attitude with constant excuses and self-deprecation in their presence ...These are just a few of the ways in which you or your acquaintances, relatives or friends can offend themselves. But let's figure out now why a girl (or a man) can suddenly begin to have the urge to offend himself? Why would someone do this? does it unconsciously, without even noticing what it is doing to itself, and does someone purposefully communicate with themselves this way? The girl most likely adopted this manner of communicating with herself from one of the significant adults (mom, dad, grandparents) .When parents communicate with a child in the manner of “you’re a mean girl” and believe that the best incentive for the child’s development, her successes and victories will be humiliation, scolding, constant announcement that she is “worthless and stupid” and “hands off.” from there,” and “her head is out of place,” the girl subconsciously assimilates this style of communication and, growing up, continues to communicate with herself this way. Sometimes, the girl does not even realize that instead of a kind word to her beloved, she mentally yells at herself, swears , is indignant, and to the question “why is all this” - she gives the answer that if she is kind and affectionate with herself, then there will be no use, she will relax and lose her temper, but you need to give yourself a kick in order for something to work out. And you need to understand that this is also a parental message, when communication with a child took place only through such kicks. However, it is important to understand that by building such an attitude towards and with herself, a girl receives huge tons of negativity, loses internal energy, and rapes herself all the time. This attitude gives rise to and maintains large-scale dislike for oneself, depressed states and a feeling of an unfulfilled life. This attitude towards oneself can and should be changed, starting with the realization that she repeats the pattern of her parents’ attitude towards her and asking the question: “Do I really want it this way?” offend yourself?" If you found the article useful or interesting, I will be glad to see your “likes”) Your psychologist, Ordina Lyubov I invite you to my author’s psychological t-game “My Superpower”! Details here: https://www.b17.ru/go_4WM