And again the First of September, or What to say to a first grader. The last summer of freedom is ending... Yes, this is true. All subsequent school summer days will be overshadowed by the “reading diary”, “summer assignments” and (oh horror!) the herbarium. You have already purchased a uniform, a backpack, a pencil case, and replacement shoes. Most parents also take choosing a school very seriously. I am sure that your child can read, write in block letters and can count well. Moreover, you probably managed to convince him that he still needs to go to school))). And many children are mature enough for first grade and calmly treat school as a new stage in their lives. Every adult has his own experience of school life. Sometimes they remember school with sadness, sometimes with indignation and hatred. I would like to appeal to parents and remind you that you are an authority for your child, and everything that he hears from you about school will be his first school experience. Therefore, there is probably no need to describe in vivid colors that terrible vixen teacher or vile classmates. Even if it was true. Let your child go to school to study, and not to “revenge” his parents. Help him. Tell him that he will have a good teacher. Yes, exactly good, and not “the best”. His classmates will be children just like himself, they will also be worried and therefore may behave a little strange. These simple words will allow the child to avoid disappointment if he suddenly doesn’t like the teacher, and unnecessary stress. In general, the biggest mistake is inflated or biased expectations. Remember that a teacher should not be the best and love children with parental love or be the organizer of your child’s extracurricular life. The teacher teaches, and he is the same person as you, he also has a family. Its main task is to help the child master the school curriculum, nothing more. And the student, in turn, needs to listen carefully to the teacher and do his homework, and not try his best to please the teacher, become the best at any cost, or confirm negative parental experiences. You probably just need to explain to the baby that his mom and dad love him, and the teacher teaches. This will save the student from the neurotic race for the teacher’s attention and will allow him to spend more time with peers and build relationships with them. The best thing you can do for your child is to constantly convey to him the idea that the teacher is good, that everything she demands is completely “legal” and logical. There is no need to discuss her words and actions in the family circle. If your homework seems too difficult or lengthy, help your child and be compassionate. But under no circumstances blame the teacher out loud. Feel sorry for yourself, scold the teacher mentally. If this situation becomes a system, discuss it with the teacher personally. The less you discuss the teacher, the more adequate and positive the child’s attitude towards learning is - this is a proven fact! In general, I think that the most important thing in preparing for school is not reading or writing technique, but the ability to maintain attention and not disturb others. If you instill in your child the rules of social life, his school life will be quite comfortable. Explain to your child that all children are different, with different abilities. What is easy for one may be difficult for another, but this does not make him a bad person unworthy of friendship. It is also important, especially for girls, to be able not to be offended. You need to defend your interests in socially acceptable ways: explain and negotiate. In general, use the language, learn to talk to each other, and not get offended and wave your fists like kids. And also, do not scare your child with school, do not treat education, at least in elementary school, as something “life-defining.” The child learned in first grade!