When parents hear that their child has serious diagnoses, it’s stressful. It is necessary to adapt to this information, understand how and where to move next. Children, in turn, need the love of their parents. Love that is adequate and helps to be happy. It is important to understand that overprotection can cause harm, as can ignoring problems. How to find balance? ✓The child should feel complete. This does not mean that problems need to be hushed up. On the contrary, it is necessary to find words to explain to the child who he is and what he is like. Answer questions about diagnoses sensitively. ✓Attention should be focused on the child himself, and not on diagnoses. The diagnosis is a text in medical documents. He helps to choose the path of habilitation and help the child. The child remains in charge! ✓ Shame in front of others about early birth, the weight and height of the child, and its characteristics need to be worked out. The child should understand his value to you, and not feel “not as he would like.” ✓ The child needs you and your love for him. Don't become isolated in your world and self-recrimination. Communicate with your child, talk about the world, about life, about your feelings. ✓ Support the child with words, touches (show tenderness by stroking hands, hugging, etc.). If something doesn’t work out, then say: “It’s a pity that it didn’t work out, it will work out next time,” “I believe in you,” “You will try and you can do it,” etc. ✓Notice the results. Track dynamics. Get it down on paper. By recording, you will see an objective picture. Learn to enjoy even his small achievements. Every step matters. ✓ Teach new things consistently. From simple to complex. Gradually. Then the training will be more successful. ✓ The child does not require sacrifices from you. If you are “squeezed like a lemon”, you fall off your feet, then the productivity of your activities is reduced. Irritation increases and this can lead to conflicts with the husband and lashing out at the child. It is much more effective when you rest on time, you have personal time and you replenish your internal resources on time. Author: Svetlana Parilova, psychologist, author of the project “Premature children/hurry” INSTGR_LINK How to accept a child with special needs https://www.b17.ru/ article/320243/If the information is useful, then say thank you 👍