From the author: On the question of motivation, or when you don’t want to do what you want to want to do) How often can you hear the request - “Help me want to”: - clean - work - engage in self-education - go to lectures - prepare for exams, etc., etc. This problem is expressed in different ways. For some it’s just plain laziness, for others it’s procrastination, for others it’s a lack of motivation. And in any case, this must be dealt with somehow. But how to fight, if sometimes there is not enough “wanting” to fight? A confusing problem... Let's try to figure it out. Typically, two main types of strategy are used to solve such problems: The first is aimed at the past and works with reasons. The second is aimed at the present and works with symptoms. More details about each of them. The first (search for reasons) is working with traumas, grievances, early losses and disappointments. Postponing things until tomorrow and lack of motivation can be associated with many things: chronic low mood, lack of self-confidence, fear of negative evaluation, apathy. Sometimes hidden parental guidelines have a similar effect: “Don’t want too much” “You’ll never get what you want anyway” “You don’t have the right to want or demand anything from us (from life)” “Nothing ever works out for you “Attitudes are absorbed deeply and have their destructive effect. And really, why try to do something if you know that it won’t do any good? Better to save your energy. For example, for sleep. Psychoanalysis and regression therapy methods are useful here. Cognitive therapy is suitable for working with attitudes. The second direction is aimed at working with what is happening here and now. Its task is to activate a person’s vital activity and increase his motivation and interest in the designated activities. How it's done? NLP techniques, methods of Gestalt therapy, art therapy, and behavioral therapy work well here. When working with “not-wanting,” it is also important to raise questions about the current goals and objectives of the person who has applied. The phrase is well known: “A person decides to change when the discomfort from the current state exceeds the discomfort from changes.” Also here - any changes must be for the sake of something. And this “for what” should be so important that it “pulls” a person and forces him to overcome a state that once became familiar and somewhat comfortable. And as long as this “for the sake of” is not there, the effect of counseling will be unstable. Therefore, when working with such requests, special attention is paid to a person’s values, needs, and setting relevant goals and objectives. In my work, I prefer to synthesize these two main directions. In my opinion, the emphasis on the reasons alone leads to the fact that a person thinks and analyzes a lot, but there are few behavioral changes. An emphasis only on the second approach risks the fact that old problems may become actual again and the person will return to his previous state. Therefore, it seems to me important to alternate the search for problems with working on current behavior. Oh, and I almost forgot! Don't blame your laziness! Think about how it is useful to you, what it protects from, what it helps with. Very often, a “lazy” state helps to accumulate resources. If they are not spent on business, then the body’s energy is spent on splitting the accumulated energy, i.e. going nowhere. If you only spend, but do not accumulate, then there will be nothing to spend quickly. Rule of the golden mean)