From the author: For those girls and ladies who want to have a long, serious and pleasant relationship with a man. Dear girls and ladies, you forced me to write this article. I treat mistakes well. We learn from mistakes. Even mistakes in relationships with a man can often be corrected, but some of you make them so many and so often that you are surprised how the human race continues to exist. I will note that there are individual representatives of the fair sex on the planet who manage to make epic, enchanting mistakes, and then be surprised that everything turns out so sadly. Today we will talk about three mistakes in interaction with men, the commission of which requires a special lack of female tact and cunning. In one of the following articles I will definitely talk about the mistakes men make in relation to women. At the same time, I am convinced that those who are usually classified as the weaker sex are responsible for the psychological climate in the family and in relationships. Why? Read moreWomen's egoismI want to be loved. I want a prince on a white horse who will carry me in his arms, defeat dragons for me and thank God for meeting me again. Why does he have to come? The answer is obvious: I’m beautiful! Yes, yes, many women continue to consider attractive appearance the main guarantee that a man will fall in love once and for all. In the fight for the title of the most beautiful, tons of cosmetics, clothes, accessories are bought, a lot of plastic surgery is done, fitness rooms, hairdressers, beauty salons, solariums are visited. Do you think that only those whose age ranges from 13-17 years think this way? This is a huge misconception. I know ladies over 50-60 who continue to think that to be happy in the family, you just need to arouse sexual desire in your husband. Ladies, between sex, a man also wants to talk! We're not rabbits! And if we are bored with you, we, of course, will look for another: beautiful and interesting. Simply beautiful is only suitable for stupid people and those who are entitled to it by status. Escort agencies today are quite capable of satisfying the needs of those who need a girl for once, a girl for going out without further dull relationships. I’m talking about female egoism because we often see a woman’s attempts to sell herself in one way or another. The only currency for payment is love, which she should receive for this or that quality, property, trait. No beauty? Okay, then I will be sensual, have a rich inner world, I will be smart, rich, famous, but you, my dear, be kind enough to fork out attention, care, love for me. TO ME!!! I am the center of the Universe, which has only one or two positive qualities. But I want so much - and first of all, a man, because in society they condemn those who do not have a boyfriend, a husband. I have to comply. It’s clear how such sweet creatures approach the issue of building relationships. Men in such couples feel that the game is a one-way game, they find lovers and leave those who have not understood that they need to give joyfully and without demands. Then everything will be fine. I am sure that many will be indignant at what I am saying and will begin to remember the cases when she was everything to him, and he, the little pig, took it and threw it away. I will give this answer. If she did this with the expectation of an answer, it served her right, because it was an attempt to sell. If there is no expectation, then it is a pity for her - after all, with this man her happiness will go away, a life that has meaning, a life when there is someone to breathe for. I will add that I often see those women who try to command a man. They try to show their self , will assert itself. How many men will tolerate this? And even if someone does, will his wife be happy? The film “Moscow Doesn’t Believe in Tears” clearly gives answers to these questions. Belief in the strength of a man When those who are usually classified as representatives of the stronger sex find themselves at an appointment with a psychologist, with an existing with one mental illness or another, I always wonder where my loved ones, especially their girlfriends and wives, were looking. If your husband drinks vodka like a horsewater, why do you start to pay attention to it only when they start bringing it home or when you and the children begin to enjoy it to the fullest? I’ll tell you a secret. Men can also have such a hard time that they want to cry, but we shouldn’t do that. We were raised that way. However, if we don’t cry, this does not mean that everything is fine with us. We want to share and are embarrassed by our weakness at the same time. How well do women understand this? Unfortunately, they often don’t understand at all. The topic of a man’s ability to reveal his feelings to his wife comes up especially often when discussing sex. The husband is happy at home, but he hires a prostitute, because with her he can realize all his secret desires. Of course, I'm not just talking about this. Each of us has our own skeletons in the closet that really interfere with our lives. A wife can sincerely give herself to her husband and at the same time not know that he has been gnawing at him for many years in a row. If this happens, then it’s only a matter of time before a man’s cup overflows and his psyche begins to play havoc. The forms, of course, can be different: alcoholism, deep neuroses and psychosomatic diseases, antisocial behavior, affective disorders, etc. The skeleton in the closet can be deep-rooted self-doubt, phobias, psychotrauma, sexual disorders and any other things that we are talking about a real man shouldn't lead. Yes, USSR education is more alive than all living things. Girls! Think about it, is the man you have now so strong? Frankness to Frankness Above, I mentioned women’s cunning and spoke about sincere worries for my loved one. These things are quite capable of being combined. For example, a situation where a woman pours a glass of cognac before dinner so that a man can relax a little and start talking is quite acceptable. At the same time, cunning has the ability to turn into dishonesty and deceit. I am talking about a woman’s dishonesty towards herself. I'm talking about a situation when she is afraid to look at herself without illusions, her inner state, the true reasons that led her to a certain life situation, which shaped her character and life. Such a woman lives in a world of her own ideas, in a world where she is completely satisfied with everything. And the man also stops developing. The husband and wife turn into one Satan, and from now on, peace of mind becomes paramount to both of them. This is how they live to old age, telling others about their mutual love. But if love is so mutual, then why is talking on the phone more important to her than communicating with her loved one, and for him football is more interesting than raising the children this woman gave birth to from him? Some such couples get divorced, and some live long ( I can’t say anything about happiness). The woman’s mistake here is that she indulged her own psychological defenses, hid her own problems from herself, and thereby gave the man the right to degrade. Every person can develop professionally, but there is also a personal component. They say that with age comes wisdom. I want to disappoint you. Sometimes age comes alone. And so we see grandmothers washing the bones of young people, and grandfathers in sweatpants with blistered knees in front of the TV. And if you ask such a woman whether her husband loves her, the answer will not always be positive. More often you can hear inhalation, exhalation and something like: since you have lived for so many years, it means you love. Oh?! I am 100% sure that many people will not like my article. I will add that if you see sexism in it, then this is a sure sign that its last part concerns you in a special way. The one where I write about honesty with oneself. Considering relationships, I talk about the equal responsibility of partners to each other. But, in addition to the general, there is always something psychological. And either a woman works with it or tries to hide her head in the sand. The situation is similar with a man. And, in my opinion, it is important to realize the significance of this purely individual work. We come to this planet naked and alone - and we leave it just as alone. For what