Divorce of parents is a shock for a child. And there will still be consequences for the child. This is a traumatic process, as a result of which children experience a whole range of negative emotions: anger, anxiety, fear, sadness, insecurity, isolation. Chronic divorce (they separated and then got back together..) is the most traumatic for a child. If during a divorce the mother harasses the father, then when the father returns to the family, the child feels like a traitor. The shock of the child can last a long time due to the way the parents behave. The child’s behavior changes and it is associated with the fear of losing the parent with whom he remained. Boys become aggressive and uncontrollable. Girls are closed and capricious. One of the most immediate consequences of divorce stress for children is disruption of their adaptation to everyday life. There are also long-term consequences regarding profound changes in the child’s personality, ideas about love and fidelity, about what a family should be like... The ideal option is for parents to separate without quarrels, scandals and mutual reproaches, to remain on good terms without mutual hostility. This type of divorce is least likely to traumatize the child. It should be recognized that if a divorce is really necessary for the parents, then it is also necessary for the child, since after a divorce it becomes possible to harmonize the life of each spouse. In a family where tension constantly reigns, conflicts are endlessly reproduced, the child feels doubly unhappy. This family environment has a more severe impact on the child than a stable life with one parent. At the same time, it must be remembered that for a child, even the most justified divorce can become a severe shock, causing unfavorable consequences, the manifestations of which sometimes continue for a considerable time. The strategy for treating a child during a divorce is to maintain the child’s trust in the world. Depending on your age, this will require different efforts. A child under 2 years of age does not yet understand the cause of the conflict, but feels tension in the relationship between the parents. He becomes nervous, whiny, sad, and begins to lag behind in development. You need to think about how to behave with your child: Try to maintain the routine the child had before the divorce. Spend more time with him, hold him in your arms more often. Take the help of friends and relatives to be able to relax and be in shape to communicate with your child. Child from 2 to 3 years old The child’s emotional connection with his parents is strong and kids often think that mom and dad broke up because of them. Children become nervous and hysterical, development slows down, night and daytime fears appear, bad habits appear (thumb sucking, navel picking, hair twirling, etc.). You need to think about how to behave with your child: Try to maintain the routine the child had. before the divorce. Spend more time with him, read books to your child, play together, discuss his feelings with him. Encourage your child to socialize with relatives and friends he likes. Ask them also not to leave the child alone with himself. Organize meetings with the divorced dad only in the presence of the mother (the mother should be nearby). You cannot give a child under 3 years old to the father for a day or two, otherwise the child is overcome by fear: “I was abandoned,” basic insecurity collapses. The child needs a phone call from the father if the child is anxious. Child from 3 to 6 years old Children feel that they cannot influence the situation, cannot understand it, and cannot control it. They blame themselves for their parents' divorce. Feelings of insecurity, anxiety, day and night fears, insomnia, bad habits arise. You need to think about how to behave with the child: It’s good if the child has a beloved grandmother or grandfather with whom he can discuss his troubles, or any person , whom the child trusts. It is important not to set the child against the departed parent. It is useful to read special.