5 stages of accepting yourself almost by analogy with the five stages of living and accepting grief. I’ll tell you how many years ago I answered and answered a very important question: “How to accept yourself?” and it seems that I have successfully completed these 5 steps on the path to myself. How to love yourself: a guide to action How to love yourself - my most popular post I took the path of self-acceptance early, left before dark... the road took exactly 1 year. It was more than 20 years ago...After an unsuccessful marriage, I suddenly realized that my parents did not accept me, but that was half the trouble. The main thing is that I realized that I myself am far from ideal - I don’t accept myself at all. I solved the problem of separation from my parents then radically. I left for the city of Vladivostok, without a residence permit, without a job - which is what I’m standing to check. Well, off we go... I lived with psychologist friends for about six months, then did repairs with a special psychology teacher on my own initiative - for food and shelter. I received from her the right to live in her spare apartment - that’s where I fell into depression. My life then was an excellent example of “don’t go into the water without knowing the ford,” and that it’s better not to go through these stages without the support of a psychologist. Someday I’ll tell you how I lived then, what I did... I swam... but you may not swim. 5 stages of how to accept yourself, raise self-esteem and not drown When you take the path of accepting yourself, even with the support of a psychologist, rely on this compiled route for you. Denial of yourself. Or, simply put, non-acceptance of oneself. This is a completely unconscious process. It all starts with him. There are signs that you are at this stage: victimization, frequent colds, conflicts out of nowhere, a persistent reluctance to seek help. Colleagues will call it resistance and rightly so. At this stage I was absolutely sure that everything was fine with me. Despite the divorce, lack of work and goals in life. Anger at myself. Sometimes hatred. Angry impotence is also mixed in here. As a rule, when a person is overtaken by the thought that he does not accept himself, it is the negative personality traits that emerge into the field of awareness, which are very difficult to assimilate into oneself. Oh, how I hated myself, I fiercely did not accept my habits. It began to seem to me that no one would accept me like this, would not love me, and that I would be doomed to eternal loneliness. Crossroads. At this stage of self-acceptance, a person has accepted some parts of himself, but not holistically, but fragmentarily. I like it, but I don’t like it very much, but it will do. And internal bargaining arises, or maybe you can give up this work on yourself. In general, I’m normal, why strive for ideal. For me it was a temporary improvement, which coincided with the fact that a girl fell in love with me. I thought, well, since they love me, then that’s it - the work of acceptance is over. How wrong I was. Depression. After the stage of temporary improvement of the condition, there always begins an exacerbation and intensification of what was in the previous stages. God forbid if there is a severe stressful situation at this stage. This is due to the fact that a person is running out of internal resources for change and needs outside support. I was so depressed when we parted with that love that brought only temporary relief. I barely made it out then. I’ll omit the details. Complete self-acceptance. Self-love. The resourcefulness of a person who accepts himself increases, portals to a new life open. New love. A new job that brings pleasure. The energy to live, love and create appears. I made friends, started dancing sports and got a new job, where a year later I met my beloved wife. Along with my work in trading, I started my psychological practice. And I still do. Conclusion: If you realize that you are ready to go through these 5 steps on the path to accepting yourself, do not repeat my mistakes - immediately contact a specialist, for example, the author of this article. Have you gone through these 5 stages of how to accept yourself? Have you consulted a psychologist? What was it like, tell me? I will be glad to see this Post on your social networks and your comments under it.".