Yesterday, I was once again faced with the fact that the way men evaluate their own sexuality is sometimes radically different from our, female point of view. So I decided to conduct a small survey among my friends and clients and rank what makes men sexy. Passion Have you noticed the excitement with which people talk about what they are passionate about? It doesn't matter what it is - music, football or molecular chemistry. But this excitement is akin to sexual. It’s not for nothing that the great psychoanalyst Jung called libido as a whole psychic energy, and sexuality as just one of the many manifestations of this energy. Maria: “Once my boyfriend and I were going to a rehearsal of a musical group and he excitedly told me about their work. On the way, we accidentally met my friend and I introduced them, and later she told me, “I understand why you fell in love with him - his eyes are shining!” “Enthused, interesting people are always sexy. Strength As you know, women prefer strong men . However, you should not take this statement too literally and spend all your free time in the gym, posting corresponding photos on Instagram*. When talking about strength, women, as a rule, mean inner strength - self-confidence, which allows men to achieve their life goals and carry them along. Vika: “We met my future husband at a programming conference - he was among the speakers . When I saw with what interest and respect other participants listened to him, I simply could not help but succumb to everyone’s admiration! As a result, I myself was the initiator of our acquaintance, and our relationship developed rapidly. Well, you understand :)” Vulnerability Knights without fear and reproach usually only exist in fairy tales, so if they encounter such a miracle in real life, girls will most likely treat it with distrust. So you shouldn’t hide your weaknesses under the guise of a superhero, because without sincerity it is impossible to achieve intimacy. Nastya: “Once I met a very handsome man on the Internet. But correspondence on the Internet is one thing, and dating in person is quite another! He seemed like just a pompous snob to me, talking about his ideal life! I was already thinking about an excuse under which I could leave there, but the situation was saved by a draft) The door slammed very loudly and sharply, he got scared and flinched - after that all his pomposity disappeared somewhere and the conversation went completely differently, more relaxed, at ease, a certain trust has appeared between us.” Generosity Perhaps the biggest men’s nightmare is selfish women who “are only interested in the size of their wallet.” Dear men, do not confuse wealth and generosity! Money itself can only attract a certain category of women to you, and it will certainly never make you sexier. However, even with even a very modest income, you can always show a woman your generosity. A simple association works here - “if he doesn’t mind even the last money for a gift, then in sex he will give his all.” Anya: “The day we met, he walked me to the taxi and paid the taxi driver in advance. The next day, I learned from friends that he was walking home from the other end of the city, because he didn’t even have money left for a minibus! Well, how could I refuse him a date after that?!” Sense of humor The ability to defuse a situation, make it more relaxed and at ease can make you an object of desire. Make your girlfriend laugh! Irina: “We renovated the kitchen, whitewashed the ceiling ourselves, hung wallpaper, and in general we put a lot of nerves and effort into it. And literally a few days later, I was mixing berries for confiture in a blender and overturned the bowl! Straight to new wallpaper! And here I am sitting in the kitchen, this confiture is all around, and I’m bawling and I don’t even have the strength to scrub it off! I thought that when my husband came and saw this, we would definitely have a fight, but he, on the contrary, began to calm me down, make me laugh, said how sweet I am now in this.