Have you ever encountered snobbery, cold arrogant aloofness, pretentiousness? It is quite unpleasant to find yourself in a situation where someone shows you, either explicitly or implicitly, your inferior position. This person may flaunt his higher social status, material wealth or intelligence. Arrogance, even carefully hidden, still “shines through” in communication. A completely possible reaction to such an attitude is awkwardness, a desire to justify oneself, that is, essentially a feeling of guilt or even shame. Everyone deals with such painful experiences in their own way. Someone meekly agrees, humiliates himself, voluntarily joining the caste of beggars. Have you heard talk about our “ hopelessly poor, good for nothing ” country? ABOUT! It's them. Those “deprived” of intelligence, money and abilities are “victims”. There are those who, in response to arrogance, burn with class hatred. Eternal fighters for justice, filled with anger towards the “bourgeoisie”, Jews, the state. You can also say something similar to: “I didn’t really want to!” It is easier to be unappreciated by a “hero” than to be shamed by a “lower stratum.” You can also go out of your way to make sure that “everything is like other people’s” and “no worse than others.” You can surround yourself with expensive things, fashionable gadgets, ride in a “respectable” car, earn scientific titles and powers. You can look arrogantly at “mere mortals.” But this will only be an external veil of constant feelings of guilt, shame and one’s own inferiority. The lack of self-esteem and self-worth cannot be replaced with something from the outside. It cannot be bought or traded. Self-worth is acquired as a result of internal work, overcoming one’s mistakes and delusions. And the first misconception is that this is unpleasant, exhausting, unbearable work. In fact, it is a joyful self-knowledge that gives strength. This is the discovery of love, kindness and confidence in yourself. It is better to raise self-esteem and demonstrate your strengths with the support of a professional psychologist and in a friendly atmosphere of psychological classes. And I will be happy to help you with this. Just call and we'll make an agreement. Sincerely, psychologist Elena Yumaguzina.