From the author: Every normal parent wants the best for their child. He tries his best, strains as hard as he can, kills himself at work, just to give his child everything, everything, everything, especially what he himself did not have at his age, but what he always really wanted. In pursuit of “the best,” you can miss the main thing – the child himself! Have you ever wondered what your child wants?! Not you, not society, but your child. You may be very surprised, but a child does not always want exactly what his dad or mom wants. He may not be as capable as you were at his age (even if your blood flows in his veins), not as persistent, not as daring, smart, etc. And this is not his fault. He is simply different, this is his peculiarity, and one must learn to see and accept this. He did not come into this world for the same reason you came into it. He has his own tasks, and they may not at all conflict with yours (which most often happens). You force your child to study only “excellently”, hang over him like an executioner if he doesn’t do his homework, take him to all sorts of clubs, send him to a music school, hire dozens of tutors, just so that the child is happy and well-settled in life. But for some reason, the child is not only not happy, he resists with all his might your good will, deceives you, does not communicate heart to heart, skips school and is constantly sick (a child often becomes ill when there is no way to fight the “myopia” of the parents) .Some parents resign themselves and let go of the situation, and at the same time the child, while others, who are especially persistent, continue to persist, thereby taking the situation to the extreme (children often experience destructive behavior in adolescence, some offspring simply leave home). I sometimes get the feeling , that some parents are simply crazy with love... so much so that they simply do not see how they are ruining their own child. It’s as if they “have a blast” on it for their “happy” childhood. I understand that modern society is 50% filled with neurotics, but why do you mock your own children, dear parents?! This is your flesh and blood! Finally, stop in your desire to “catch up and do them good.” I have a number of questions for the parents who recognized themselves from the description above: 1. Why is it necessary for a child to succeed in all subjects? For what? For an excellent certificate? Do you remember everything from school now? Can you reproduce the Pythagorean table or Newton’s second law from memory?! Or maybe you remember what reforms Alexander II carried out or explain why we say: “In the corridor, in the room, in the living room, but in the kitchen”? Alexander Pushkin had solid C grades in his diary, but this did not stop him from becoming a great poet . Grades don’t mean anything, continued here: http://ovasko.ru/kak-roditeli-gubyat-svoix-detej/#utm..