The crisis of three years. The child already understands a lot, his brain is developing very quickly, his psyche and emotional sphere are rapidly developing, the child can already do simple mental operations like - the candy is delicious I want it, my mother can buy it in the store. But what money is, where it comes from, is not yet within the capabilities of a child’s brain. We are talking about the age of 2 - 2.5 years, during this period hysterics often occur when they are refused something that the child has come up with. The main task of this age is to learn to understand your feelings and cope with strong affects. When the child “pays off” and gains the experience that when he has strong feelings, he is not shamed, not punished for hysterics, not threatened to leave him alone, give him away to a passerby, etc. And when you try to do it yourself, they insure you and come to help, which is easy to accept (this is when they say “don’t be upset, it will work out later, you’re doing great anyway”), if the help is humiliating, “see, I told you it won’t work, I’ll add it now,” the child ends up in a situation of difficult choice: 👆to cope alone👆or to accept help that is unpleasant and offensive. When a child gains experience of the reliability of an adult, he moves into a very pleasant stage of development - where a lot of tenderness and love is revealed, the so-called “tender age” is such a reward for parental patience. If during this period the child has not learned to cope with his emotions, and for example he was always silenced or his emotional impulse was stopped by threats, then it is very difficult to approach tenderness, the child has a ban on expressing emotions and any difficulty can lead him into a state of hysteria affect. Any wrongly spoken word will offend you to the core, and the fear of failure will be panicky. The result is an eternally dissatisfied child, whom it is impossible to please, and if you almost fall into his expectations there will be an explosion of rage or withdrawal into himself. So what to do? We need to go back to the very beginning, that is, to learning to live with anger, envy, impulsive desires and not It doesn’t matter how old the child is, this stage can only be passed this way. There is an option to take him to a psychologist, he will help the child master his emotions, and also help the mother learn to withstand the child’s emotions. Or on your own, having realized this gap, try to believe that the child is not trying to hurt his mother, to drive her crazy, but in fact he cannot cope with himself. Give him the experience of safe acceptance in any condition and gradually everything will improve and the relationship will become much warmer.