If you are offended, then you have not grown up. And this is not reflected in the years you have lived, your status and the numbers in your passport. Inside, you are still the same offended child. In our society, they are very tolerant of grievances. They are not of particular interest and are considered quite normal behavior. In reality, an adult person is internally capable, albeit sometimes with the help of a psychologist, of sorting out the reasons for his condition. Talk them over with the other party (or again with a psychologist, if dialogue with the other party is not possible) and let them go (or make the condition easier to bear). Don’t accumulate grudges against parents, friends, girlfriends and former loved ones for years. Don’t carry them with you for many years resentment towards the husband with whom you live side by side. Sooner or later it will “bomb” so much that it won’t seem like much. It would seem out of the blue. And the place has not been level for a long time. Behind the insult lies a lot of indicators of an immature psyche: Resentment is always a childish position. If someone can influence us so much, then we put ourselves in a more junior, dependent position. Inability to talk openly with another person. Explain your expectations and desires or moments that are simply unpleasant in communication. The expectation that the other person will understand everything and ask for forgiveness, that is, serve our interests without our participation. We will only need to condescend and forgive. In resentment, we overload our communication with our personal characteristics and reactions. We overload, that is, with our indirect behavior we invite others to take care of our feelings. This is often a heavy burden for others. We become hostages of the situation, as if unable to control it. All that remains is to stand in a pose and wait for the situation to be resolved. Yes, sometimes the resentment is strong and captures most of our attention. It drags you in so much that you can no longer pay attention to anything. And here you need to cope with your emotions, let alone listen to someone else. I often come across this in consultations and help people understand themselves first, and then see the feelings of the other person. Resentment arises in relationships. There are always the interests of the second person. Not only ours. This is important to remember. If you want to sort out the causes of resentment, live, let go and move on with ease, I invite you to personal sessions. I work gently and effectively in an integrative-somatic approach, using additionally other directions.