One of the frequent questions concerning us, ordinary people, is “How to love yourself?” And it seems that this is difficult, but not everyone succeeds. This seemingly simple phrase contains the sacred meaning of life. Since love is what we all revolve around. So: - loving yourself is not only an apartment, a car, a manicure, a pedicure. This is not a joke, which often hides one’s own inadequacy and a feeling of fear that someone might find out that something is wrong with me. Love is the first primary human need: “I want to be loved.” This is a beginning that first of all means: I want my mother to love me. The need is embedded in our DNA. Every person from the very beginning is endowed with the ability to love, initially it is directed towards his mother, and he also has a great desire to be loved by his mother. This is one of the main conditions of human existence. If in childhood our need was not satisfied. That is, the baby loved his mother, but in return he did not feel anything like that from her, or love became food, clean clothes, etc. That is, he did not get what he wanted with all his heart, he had to refuse and involuntarily agree to what happened. Love was hushed up and survival began. How do you think a child who does not know what affection, kisses, safety, and the interest of a parent will feel about himself? How will he love himself? The consequences are as follows: In adulthood, a person will look for a partner who loves, warms, provides, or, in the conditions of a more cruel childhood, simply creates security for himself. All this will be replaced by love. Loving yourself is an internal feeling. Which means care, awe, affection, respect, support, agreement with oneself. Don’t heat up cold coffee, don’t eat what you don’t like, don’t live with anyone you don’t want to, don’t betray yourself, don’t offend, don’t deceive yourself. Be your own support and care. For this, it is important to have your own self inside. Do you love yourself or sublimate love?